NOW THAT I HAVE YOUR ATTENTION...
I am going to say something that many won't agree with.
It is not incumbent only on the man to maintain the relationship. There are things that both partners will, at times, not want to do that are necessary to maintain the relationship. These things will be different for different people. You need to find out what needs your partner has and do your best to meet them.
One thing that is a big deal breaker in relationships is sexual gratification. When one partner doesn't "feel like it" and the other wants it there can be hurt feelings, misunderstandings, anger, doubt and a whole lot of undesirable consequences.
Now don't misunderstand what I am saying. Occasional mismatches in desire/libido are to be expected. The problem arises when it becomes more than occasional and begins to feel like the norm. Sometimes, to preserve the relationship, it is better to put your own desires aside for a while and meet the needs of your partner.
I can only speak from my personal experience, so take this with a grain of salt. When my wife doesn't "feel like it" for extended periods of time it makes me start to question her attraction to me and her commitment to the marriage. The longer it goes the more I get concerned. This is true even though we have had conversations about our commitment to each other, our marriage, our kids, etc. and reaffirmed those commitments regularly. Still, when there is no physical expression of that attraction and commitment there is an undeniable thought in my mind that maybe...
Sex is wonderful.
Sex should ALWAYS be consensual.
Sex should not just be a treat; it should be a frequent thing between a man and wife.
Sex should NEVER be withheld as punishment.
Sex should NEVER be used as a bargaining chip.
and sometimes,
Sex should be consented to even when you don't desire it at that particular time.
It goes both ways. This is for both men and women.
"...because of immoralities, each man is to have his own wife, and each woman is to have her own husband. The husband must fulfill his duty to his wife, and likewise also the wife to her husband. The wife does not have authority over her own body, but the husband does; and likewise also the husband does not have authority over his own body, but the wife does. Stop depriving one another, except by agreement for a time, so that you may devote yourselves to prayer, and come together again so that Satan will not tempt you because of your lack of self-control..."
1 Cor 2:7-5 NASB
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