On Sunday, when prepping dinner with my daughter - just the two of us - she confided in me that she enjoys having time without her sibling, otherwise she almost feels like her brother is stealing love from her. That came as a little surprise (because both me and my wife are trying to be mindful about this), and made me a little proud, since she has the words, ability, and courage to formulate those feelings. So we talked a lot about love languages, how she perceives things (she pinpointed quality time for her) and so on. Today, at work, I had an impulse, kinda the airplane 'save yourself first' but on its head. Since I am unable to formulate an action plan for myself right now (don't worry, things will manage, they always do), I decided to save family first. What's more, my wife formulated a theory that kids may be creating power-draining situations to subconsciously call for attention. So at home I planned to give at least 20 minutes to each member. That may not sound like a lot, but consider I wanted it to be uninterrupted and one-on-one, and if you have kids, it's not an easy feat. Coincidentally, my wife had to leave for a late Christmas party, but I had my mind set. I had my first session with the younger one - we built a wooden track for an engine...and a space shuttle with dragons, and radioactive fluorescent stones as fuel. So after 40 minutes, I left him with an audiobook of his choosing and all was well. Daughter chose a drawing session, and we drew kittens, turtles, and a monkey for more than half an hour. All was fun. Even managed to get them showered without much fuss... Then the universe decided that I flew too close to the sun and decided to 'fix' that for me. *yay* But I think those bitemarks they gave to each other will heal soon. So much for the 'calling for attention' theory. Drained of energy, there were two more microconflicts that my daughter perceived as unfair again, and maybe this time she was right as I was running on reserves. But such is the life of an adventurer. About to go read the first chapter of the second Hilda book. #morituritesalutant #parenting

I think that putting an option to stop notes from being broadcast breaks things massively. And it's only indicated by a simple '-' value somewhere in the payload. Like what? Why would anyone do that? As for the breaking, I knew I reacted to some astrology post, but was unable to find it across clients. Why? Because it's on a single relay, my comment got posted only there, clients refuse to rebroadcast it, and given it's a Mastodon export I am not sure if the OP even got to see my comment. Simply frustrating 😡 View quoted note →

Had a work meeting that went well, and we helped find some core underlying issues of the business (which we will be helping to address, collecting both consultancy and project fees, yay!) At the after-meeting coffee, the client asked me, 'How did you think about digging in that direction?' - the direction being one symptom actually being the result of three different issues. Now I said something about reading about the Socratic method, 5 Whys, etc. and wrote it off just as 'it's our job to know.' Had I not lied, I could have said something along the lines: 'Well, I was coming from a pub meeting with my friend, and we got drunk, philosophical, and drunk. On the way home I chatted with an LLM about stockings, stoicism, and sex. It helped me discover that my symptoms have three roots blossoming into the same green crown: insufficient intimacy battery, different love languages, and kink self-realization. And since then I try to look behind the veil of obvious solutions.' But since the client knows me IRL, I chose the cowardly route of brushing it off. ¯\_(ツ)_/¯

Note to myself: if the morning is way too quiet and peaceful, check if your phone hasn't flipped to airplane mode by mistake. #ItWasNiceWhileItLasted

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Maillardification should be a word. #foodstr

An acquaintance of mine had a brief brush with being a manager for OnlyFans girls. NGL, I thought, if I were in that position, there are more than a few scenarios where one could be really inventive, since, you know, it takes a pervert to know a pervert. Even on the soft/non-penetrative side of things, like FLR/fetish content. But ultimately, I am pretty sure my wife wouldn't feel comfortable with me dabbling in that - the risk of exposure isn't worth it, and there is always a chance of getting high on your own supply. #notworthit

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Girls, be more like the Greater Roadrunner. She beats snakes... and doesn't bite, just swallows. #OrDont #IAmANostrNoteNotACop

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