‘Have fun with your Bitcoin, and everything else you are playing with.’ -Trump
To be honest, we should be very proud that we have found something fun to play with. Enough with the negative narrative that it's less valuable or bad to do or experience something in the manner of a child, to be excited, to experience, to learn.
In this sense, the statement is actually an encouragement: you have managed to break out of this abnormal and unrelaxing world.
I feel sorry for the people who no longer want to be children.
Bei 
What do I do if the BTCPay server does not reliably send the Zap event back to the relays?
Do I then have to query the invoice for payment myself, which would be more stable, or?