Most of us have some judgement of other people or situations and that's normal. It's healthy to be aware of this judgement because it usually reflects back on ourselves something we are judging in ourselves. Learning where it comes from and working through those things allows us to move forward in our lives.
Kyle Miller
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The amount of rest we actually need to recover and heal does not really seem to make sense. We simply need as much as we do. The more we allow ourselves the rest, the easier it is to move forward. It won't be forever, unless we don't allow ourselves enough rest for enough time. Take and make the time you need.
You are stronger than you may ever know. All of the things you have endured have and continue to show that strength. The scars are proof of what you went through, but they are not who you are. You are the beautiful soul behind all the strength and scars. Treat yourself as such! 

It is essential to find these best friends to live your life with. These relationships are some of the foundation of a truly wonderful life. It begins with a best friend relationship with ourselves. Then we can be the best friend to someone who wants to reciprocate with us. Do the work to build these relationships with yourself and then with others. You are worth it! 

Narcissists want attention. That's one reason they cause chaos. It's the easiest way to get attention. Depending on what they think will get them the most attention, they will talk about being the best, or the best victim. It all comes down to attention. Either way they're better, according to them anyway. 

So many of us feel alone and hopeless on the journey out of narcissistic abuse. Getting free and working on healing gives hope for so many people. Many of which you will never realize how much difference you made in their lives simply by continuing down the path of healing. Keep going! You are worth it! 

So many times we think we didn't give enough especially in toxic relationships. The truth is we didn't. We didn't give ourselves enough love, compassion and kindness to ourselves. We didn't give ourselves enough healthy boundaries. Giving to ourselves is the most important thing and we probably need more than what we're giving now.
I realize that in the moment for most of us, it's not easy to believe this. You've already gotten through every single hard thing in your life. You will make it through this too! Allow yourself extra kindness and compassion in the process especially when it feels like you're going backwards. Sometimes moving forward requires a step back. 

You're still here and moving forward in your life even when you have to take a step back on things. There's a lot to proud of you for in your life. Learning to allow yourself to embrace this is life altering and allows you to move forward even more. We can't force ourselves to do much in our lives at least long term, but we can allow ourselves to.
Narcissists want to define us to and for ourselves. So much we do take on in these relationships and then shame and blame ourselves for staying or believing negative things about ourselves. We didn't see it until we did. Be proud of every single thing you did to get out and heal! Most of all, be kind to you through the process! 

Trauma and healing feels like we're falling endlessly. We want to grab hold of something or someone to save us. The reality is we're not actually falling and we don't need saving. We simply get to show up for ourselves to support and love ourselves through the struggle. We have everything we need in ourselves to make it through this.
Narcissists love to lie to and about us and if we ever say anything they will act like we deserved it. This is never the truth and it is abuse no matter how subtle it is. Everyone deserves love and respect. This is something we must first give ourselves first in order to embrace it from others. 

Fear is only rarely helpful in our lives. It's always something we can learn and grow from, but not if we're trying to run away from it. We must face and allow the fear to learn the lesson from it. It's not easy and it's not something we'll ever be perfect at, but it's something we can all work on and get better at.
Toxic people are stuck in their lives and they will always be miserable mostly because they're unwilling to ever change. We don't need to stay stuck with them. We can heal. Not to feel a little better, though. We heal so we can move forward and not only build a life we want, but also to embrace and enjoy the life we build. 

Many of us had to endure a level a darkness that cannot be described to someone who hasn't seen it and experienced it themselves. In many ways, this gave us the ability to see everything in a beautiful light we never could see before. It requires healing to completely embrace it, but it's absolutely worth it! 

The healthier we are, the less we are willing to tolerate in any relationships. This doesn't mean simply cutting people off without a conversation, unless they're unwilling to have one. This means having standards for what we want and don't want in relationships and holding those standards. This is also something that can be done with kindness!
It does not actually matter if they're a narcissist or not. What really matters is if they are toxic to us in our lives and if they are actively doing anything to change that. These things are often more subtle and nuanced, but much more important! I talk about all these things to help people spot toxic behavior, not diagnose narcissists.😁 🤷
All of the anger and bitterness we hold towards them hurts us. It keeps out attention focused on them and everything they did. Allow the emotions and process them, but then bring your focus back to you. What do you want for your life and for yourself. This is the path to healing and moving forward with your life. 

Toxic people push boundaries, narcissist or not. It's not ok and it's not something we need to deal with and certainly not put up with. Boundaries are something we hold in place for ourselves. Not something we put on someone else. Healthy boundaries keep our safety and our peace. Good people respect them!
Anxious, avoidant, or toxic? Or perhaps they found their person and they don't want to wait any longer to be with them. No judgement either way. I do have to ask if we've all been doing the work to build and have a healthy relationship with ourselves before we go jump into one with anyone else.