Kyle Miller 4 months ago

So many people simply can't find it in themselves to hate even the people who have abused them and that's ok. The important thing is to be kind to ourselves. We get to learn how to forgive and love ourselves for who we are. Not who we think we should be.

Kyle Miller 4 months ago

Many times we think about the things and experiences we can buy for ourselves. These are important, but the growth and learning comes from inside ourselves. We must make the time and energy to give this to ourselves. It's the time, attention and care from ourselves to ourselves. It all starts inside us! #grownostr

Kyle Miller 4 months ago

After abusive relationships, we not only learn about it, to make sure we're not crazy. We also have the experience of seeing what they did to us. It's horrible to go through, but we also learn to see what they're doing. Once we see it, we can't not see it ever again even if it takes a little time to become aware of it.

Kyle Miller 4 months ago

We are always wrong in toxic relationships no matter what we do, according to them anyway. We often carry this fear of being wrong with us long after we're out of the toxic relationship. It continues to hold us back in every area of our lives. This is another reason healing is so important. It allows us to actually move forward with our lives.

Kyle Miller 4 months ago

Hopefully we've gotten past this, but many of us have wanted revenge or at least consequences for the narcissists. That's normal and probably even reasonable. The best revenge I think is knowing they'll be miserable for the rest of their lives. We get to heal and move forward with ours and be happy!

Kyle Miller 4 months ago

We are all guilty of many things in our lives and behaviors and that's ok. This does not mean everything is our fault, even when we have fault in things that happen. Toxic people will point out things we've done, but then claim everything is our fault especially in relationships. Own what's yours and release the rest!

Kyle Miller 4 months ago

Narcissists hate anyone else being happier than they are. Rather than work on their happiness, they'd rather ruin ours. When they can't actually do this, they get angry. Let them be angry and focus on yourself and your life. Allow the joy and happiness into your life no matter what they have to say.

Kyle Miller 4 months ago

Such a beautiful ride today and a wonderful conversation! So grateful to get out!

Kyle Miller 4 months ago

Such a beautiful ride today and a great conversation too! Grateful I got out. https://blossom.primal.net/2533042cb8ddd12e6979b9d78a023c00b10e5e1c3e492ced80d7c8ffbb4970f0

Kyle Miller 4 months ago

It's so much easier to villainize everyone else in our lives and play victim to our circumstances than to simply stand in our own truth. Some people simply don't align with us and our beliefs and that's ok. It doesn't mean they are wrong, or that we are wrong. We simply have different beliefs. #grownostr

Kyle Miller 4 months ago

We cannot have deep, quality relationships without facing hard truths in ourselves and with others. The basis of this is honesty. First with ourselves and then with others. If we are unwilling to face and communicate these things we will have to settle for shallow surface level relationships with ourselves and with others. #grownostr

Kyle Miller 4 months ago

The pain we go through is not easy and neither is feeling the emotions, especially when they are bursting out. It's good they are coming out though. We must release them in order to make space for all the good we want in our lives. #grownostr

Kyle Miller 4 months ago

Narcissists cause chaos and drama, but what's worse is they enjoy watching it. Watch out for anyone that seems to enjoy this. That's a red flag. I realize it's not easy, but work to not react when they are trying to cause issues. It will probably get worse first, but they often go find someone else they can manipulate then. #grownostr

Kyle Miller 4 months ago

Narcissists don’t see you as a person with feelings and needs. They see you as a resource, someone to use, drain, and discard. Real love isn’t transactional. We all deserve to find and have someone in our lives that truly loves us. We don't have to continue giving to anyone who doesn't reciprocate this. #grownostr

Kyle Miller 4 months ago

Most of us have felt we weren't enough. This is never the truth. There's also nothing we could have done or can do in order to have a good relationship with toxic people. They must also do the work themselves. We are enough just as we are. The best thing we can do is focus on ourselves and our own healing. #grownostr

Kyle Miller 4 months ago

A narcissist will never give you real closure because keeping you confused benefits them. Healing happens when you stop waiting for them to fix what they broke and start rebuilding yourself on your own terms. The way they treated us is as close to closure as we'll get from them. Focus on you and moving forward with your life! #grownostr

Kyle Miller 4 months ago

Narcissists simply do not care about anyone else, ever! They only care about what they can get from us or through us. They will say and act like they care about us or love us, but this is only a manipulation. This is how they get what they need. It's not right or ok, but it's the truth. We don't have to participate! #grownostr

Kyle Miller 4 months ago

People often tell us to get over it and often mean well. The how is the hard part and most people were never taught this. Doing the work of healing helps teach and train us how to do these things. That's why it's so important to do the work. Then we learn how and it no longer has the same affect on us. #grownostr

Kyle Miller 4 months ago

Toxic people try to keep us small. It's to control us. We continue to reinforce this in ourselves even after we get out of toxic relationships. It wasn't safe for us before and so we carry this with us. Doing the work to heal allows us to open up to the good things in our lives and embrace them! #grownostr

Kyle Miller 4 months ago

Stop making excuses for red flags. If someone lies, manipulates, or disrespects you, that’s who they are. Hoping for them to change will only prolong your pain. Anyone can change if they actually decide to, but most people won't. Hope often only keeps us stuck in toxic relationships that won't ever change! #grownostr