Narcissists will always expect you to choose them over everyone including yourself. However, they will never choose you. It isn't fair or right, but it's the truth. It doesn't mean we have to tell them this, but it does mean we need to be conscious so we can choose what's right for us. #grownostr
In order to let go of our emotions, we must first allow them to be there and face them. Only then can we use logic to help processing them. They must be acknowledged. Thinking that logically "we shouldn't feel like this" is avoiding and suppressing, not acknowledging and feeling. Do the work! #grownostr
I don't encourage anyone to call out narcissists, especially to the narcissist. It usually causes more harm than good and can be incredibly dangerous. It doesn't mean you need to be silent. I simply suggest doing it in ways and with people to ensure your own safety and not cause more drama and chaos in your own life. #grownostr
It sounds confusing because it is. They often mean everything to us until we see the truth. We also mean nothing to them if we're not being the perfect supply, and these are only fleeting moments. The missing piece is us learning to love ourselves. Then we can learn to let go of the emptiness. #grownostr
Narcissists use sex as a tool for manipulation, control and abuse. They may withhold it and then say it's for "these" reasons, but if you try to do what they say they need, they'll avoid it. When they need it they will shame you into it and they will definitely judge you either way. There's no win when we stay in these relationships. #grownostr
The experience I had with feeling anger felt different than I've ever felt before. It was not so much an emotion controlling me as I was simply experiencing it. It's taken me a lot of work to get here. I also know this is something that is possible for everyone if they choose to do the work. #grownostr
The feelings we had for even toxic or abusive people is real no matter what anyone says about it. Shame and judgement from ourselves or others does not help us to work through these emotions. It will often push people away instead. What we really need is kindness and compassion from ourselves and everyone else. #grownostr
We all go through it. It often feels like a struggle, but it doesn't mean it is or it has to be. It usually feels worse than it is and it's good when we allow it to surface, even though it doesn't feel that way. We get better over time and our capacity and capability grows. Releasing these things is life altering! #grownostr
Narcissists are masters of deception. If they think you are going to leave and they don't want you to, they will change things. Let's be clear though, this is only enough and for long enough to keep you there. Then it's back to business as usual. The only reality they live in is their illusion! #grownostr
We often want to jump right into solving the problems in our lives, our relationships, or within ourselves. This is great, but it's not so good if we don't acknowledge the issues first. It's essential to first acknowledge what we're going or anyone else is. Then we can work towards solutions to them. #grownostr
Everyone wants peace in their lives, or at least we say we do. The reality is that we can only have the level of peace we are willing to work for especially after toxic relationships. We must face and heal the demons we have been burying to truly feel the peace inside of us. #grownostr
Heavy emotions often feel like a punch. Healing not only softens the blow, but it helps us to let go of it faster. We don't heal just to feel a little better. We heal so that things don't bother us the way they did and it makes it easier and faster to move forward with our lives. You are worth doing the work for this! #grownostr
This is not easy with seemingly more and more narcissists everywhere, or perhaps our awareness of them now. It is possible to greatly limit interactions and connections with them. They don't need to know any more than is necessary to interact with them and only if we must. #grownostr
Abusive is subtle and deceptive, very much the way the heat was today. There was enough breeze and cloud cover to make it seem like it wasn't as hot as it was. In toxic relationships it's very much the same way. We don't realize how bad it is because there's little sprinkles of breadcrumbs occasionally. #grownostr
The reason healing work is so essential is because it affects every aspect of our lives. If we don't heal the wounds, they will affect us and everyone around us forever. It doesn't mean we must be "healed", but it's essential to continue doing the work and growing our awareness. If we want to move forward in our lives anyway. #grownostr
Narcissists thrive on making others feel small by undermining their confidence and self-worth. They manipulate, belittle, and devalue others to maintain a sense of superiority and control. This allows them to feed their own ego while keeping others dependent and insecure. #grownostr
We all go through hard things and many times it feels like a disaster. It rarely is even though it often feels like it. It's often simply a season we must work through. You've made it through hard seasons before and you can make it through this one. Be kind to yourself and allow yourself compassion. #grownostr
Narcissists use so many lies to keep us trapped and stuck. We often end up taking on their lies as our own even after the relationship ends. We must learn to differentiate between our own thoughts and those that came from someone else. Then process and release them. This is a major piece of healing! #grownostr
They have spent a lifetime developing their chameleon exterior and learning how to make people like them. It's a show and it's for you to never see who they truly are. They don't have a true self, only the image they show for every different person. They literally live in an illusion they created! #grownostr
Watching the new supply get sucked in is similar to watching the aftermath of a car wreck. We don't really want to look and it's not really any of our business, but there's still a bit of curiosity. We don't really want to see anyone get sucked into a narcissists grasp, but at least it's not ourselves this time. #grownostr
