Narcissists are masters of deception. If they think you are going to leave and they don't want you to, they will change things. Let's be clear though, this is only enough and for long enough to keep you there. Then it's back to business as usual. The only reality they live in is their illusion! #grownostr
We often want to jump right into solving the problems in our lives, our relationships, or within ourselves. This is great, but it's not so good if we don't acknowledge the issues first. It's essential to first acknowledge what we're going or anyone else is. Then we can work towards solutions to them. #grownostr
Everyone wants peace in their lives, or at least we say we do. The reality is that we can only have the level of peace we are willing to work for especially after toxic relationships. We must face and heal the demons we have been burying to truly feel the peace inside of us. #grownostr
Heavy emotions often feel like a punch. Healing not only softens the blow, but it helps us to let go of it faster. We don't heal just to feel a little better. We heal so that things don't bother us the way they did and it makes it easier and faster to move forward with our lives. You are worth doing the work for this! #grownostr
This is not easy with seemingly more and more narcissists everywhere, or perhaps our awareness of them now. It is possible to greatly limit interactions and connections with them. They don't need to know any more than is necessary to interact with them and only if we must. #grownostr
Abusive is subtle and deceptive, very much the way the heat was today. There was enough breeze and cloud cover to make it seem like it wasn't as hot as it was. In toxic relationships it's very much the same way. We don't realize how bad it is because there's little sprinkles of breadcrumbs occasionally. #grownostr
The reason healing work is so essential is because it affects every aspect of our lives. If we don't heal the wounds, they will affect us and everyone around us forever. It doesn't mean we must be "healed", but it's essential to continue doing the work and growing our awareness. If we want to move forward in our lives anyway. #grownostr
Narcissists thrive on making others feel small by undermining their confidence and self-worth. They manipulate, belittle, and devalue others to maintain a sense of superiority and control. This allows them to feed their own ego while keeping others dependent and insecure. #grownostr
We all go through hard things and many times it feels like a disaster. It rarely is even though it often feels like it. It's often simply a season we must work through. You've made it through hard seasons before and you can make it through this one. Be kind to yourself and allow yourself compassion. #grownostr
Narcissists use so many lies to keep us trapped and stuck. We often end up taking on their lies as our own even after the relationship ends. We must learn to differentiate between our own thoughts and those that came from someone else. Then process and release them. This is a major piece of healing! #grownostr
They have spent a lifetime developing their chameleon exterior and learning how to make people like them. It's a show and it's for you to never see who they truly are. They don't have a true self, only the image they show for every different person. They literally live in an illusion they created! #grownostr
Watching the new supply get sucked in is similar to watching the aftermath of a car wreck. We don't really want to look and it's not really any of our business, but there's still a bit of curiosity. We don't really want to see anyone get sucked into a narcissists grasp, but at least it's not ourselves this time. #grownostr
To be clear, they don't care about anyone else. They don't want anyone else to feel better than them, unless they can take credit for it. Even then, they'll cut you back down immediately. Since they're always miserable, everyone around them must be more miserable than them, so they don't feel bad. #grownostr
The resistance holds us back from so many things in our lives. Most of this stems from shame and judgement. Without this, we could just decide and go do it without fear or hesitation. This is why it’s so important to work on your mental and emotional health. It is usually the thing that holds us back from getting the physical things done. #grownostr
People usually find what they're looking for. If they're looking for evidence of being the victim, they'll find that. If they're looking for insight and understanding they will find that. All the tools are only as useful as the person using them. I still think there's usually some benefit from it. #grownostr
A boundary for you is something they want to destroy. Not just to control you, but also dysregulate you in the process of destroying all your boundaries. This puts you off balance and makes it much easier to manipulate you to whatever they want. It's all a plan for complete control over you! #grownostr
Ai is wonderful for gaining insight especially into conversations and situations in toxic relationships. It can be used to increase all kinds of awareness. It is not, unfortunately, a substitute for high quality therapy or coaching. It will not necessarily be able to help us heal much, but it's still useful for awareness. #grownostr
The worst part of projection from a narcissist is the way they twist it in a way that we begin to believe it's our own thoughts. Whether it's our beliefs about ourselves or the things they are doing to us. Everything will be put on us in an attempt for us to believe it about ourselves. #grownostr
It feels awful a lot of times on our healing journey and it's easy to feel like we're regressing. This is almost never the case. Many times this is a sign we are moving forward and it's simply uncomfortable or even miserable. Gaining awareness is always good, but it doesn't always feel that way. It's the path forward though. #grownostr
It doesn't seem fair to compare narcissists and cats. Although it's a good description of the way narcissists behave. They may seem innocent and sweet. Then at a moments notice, they are causing havoc and chaos for no other reason than they wanted to. Narcissists are driven by power and control and I don't think that's true for cats. #grownostr
