Watching the new supply get sucked in is similar to watching the aftermath of a car wreck. We don't really want to look and it's not really any of our business, but there's still a bit of curiosity. We don't really want to see anyone get sucked into a narcissists grasp, but at least it's not ourselves this time. #grownostr
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To be clear, they don't care about anyone else. They don't want anyone else to feel better than them, unless they can take credit for it. Even then, they'll cut you back down immediately. Since they're always miserable, everyone around them must be more miserable than them, so they don't feel bad. #grownostr


The resistance holds us back from so many things in our lives. Most of this stems from shame and judgement. Without this, we could just decide and go do it without fear or hesitation. This is why it’s so important to work on your mental and emotional health. It is usually the thing that holds us back from getting the physical things done. #grownostr
People usually find what they're looking for. If they're looking for evidence of being the victim, they'll find that. If they're looking for insight and understanding they will find that. All the tools are only as useful as the person using them. I still think there's usually some benefit from it. #grownostr
A boundary for you is something they want to destroy. Not just to control you, but also dysregulate you in the process of destroying all your boundaries. This puts you off balance and makes it much easier to manipulate you to whatever they want. It's all a plan for complete control over you! #grownostr


Ai is wonderful for gaining insight especially into conversations and situations in toxic relationships. It can be used to increase all kinds of awareness. It is not, unfortunately, a substitute for high quality therapy or coaching. It will not necessarily be able to help us heal much, but it's still useful for awareness. #grownostr
The worst part of projection from a narcissist is the way they twist it in a way that we begin to believe it's our own thoughts. Whether it's our beliefs about ourselves or the things they are doing to us. Everything will be put on us in an attempt for us to believe it about ourselves. #grownostr


It feels awful a lot of times on our healing journey and it's easy to feel like we're regressing. This is almost never the case. Many times this is a sign we are moving forward and it's simply uncomfortable or even miserable. Gaining awareness is always good, but it doesn't always feel that way. It's the path forward though. #grownostr
It doesn't seem fair to compare narcissists and cats. Although it's a good description of the way narcissists behave. They may seem innocent and sweet. Then at a moments notice, they are causing havoc and chaos for no other reason than they wanted to. Narcissists are driven by power and control and I don't think that's true for cats. #grownostr
Most of it's about shame. It's much easier for a narcissist to find something to shame you about, than ever face the shame they feel. They want you to feel worse, so they feel less bad. They don't want to and are unwilling to do the work to feel better themselves and there's nothing you can do about it. #grownostr


When we're tired, sick or just not feeling well, it seems even more like everything has gone wrong. Or worse, like we're going backwards in our healing. This is the time to give ourselves extra grace and compassion. Our minds don't work as well when our body's are not working well and that's ok. Allow yourself time and kindness to work through it. #grownostr
No one is truly safe around narcissists. Collateral damage is a constant around them unless you're fortunate enough to not be the target. No one is innocent in their world except for them. There's no length they won't go to to get what they want even if it destroys them in the process. #grownostr


We all avoid emotions to some extent. If we're willing to admit it to ourselves or anyone else another story. It's ok if we are doing this, but we don't want to get stuck there. We must allow and process these emotions if we want to move forward with our lives. It also makes the journey much better! #grownostr
I suppose the exception is they are genuinely narcissists, which is anything but genuine. This is because they have no sense of self or who they are. Everything they do is to manipulate for more of everything. There is never enough of more and it will never be enough. Opt out of their game! #grownostr 

Too many times we rerun what we've done and said and question everything we did. We couldn't have made things better because we were not the only issue in the relationship. They were just trying to get us to believe we were the only problem. You can't have a healthy relationship with a toxic person! #grownostr
You'll be lucky to get breadcrumbs and they will manipulate you to think they are giving you everything. The reality is you will never even get close to the bare minimum. Anything they give you will be to show everyone else "how good they are". It's a lie and a deception! We don't have to participate in their illusion! #grownostr


Even when narcissists seem to get away with everything in the short term. In the long term they end up burning every relationship they have and die alone, miserable and lonely. They are perpetual victims of their own demise and it follows them through their lives. Eventually it catches up with them. #grownostr 

I won't say we need to go through this, because I don't believe that. We certainly didn't deserve it either.
It's often a catalyst though for really making changes in our lives in a positive way. It can be a time of huge positive growth, if we choose this. None of it is easy and I know this. It is possible for everyone to move forward with their lives no matter where they start. #grownostr
We've strived enough to be enough for the wrong people. Stop trying to prove your worth. The right person will see it. These people will see your value and you will always be enough for them. Your value and worth will be reciprocated. We will never get this from the wrong person no matter how hard we try. #grownostr


Narcissists will say you're punishing them when we don't do what they want. You’re not being mean. You’re saving yourself. We must hold healthy boundaries to protect ourselves. Often, with toxic people, the only boundary that's safe is no contact at least until we can build healthy boundaries. #grownostr

