It doesn't seem fair to compare narcissists and cats. Although it's a good description of the way narcissists behave. They may seem innocent and sweet. Then at a moments notice, they are causing havoc and chaos for no other reason than they wanted to. Narcissists are driven by power and control and I don't think that's true for cats. #grownostr
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Most of it's about shame. It's much easier for a narcissist to find something to shame you about, than ever face the shame they feel. They want you to feel worse, so they feel less bad. They don't want to and are unwilling to do the work to feel better themselves and there's nothing you can do about it. #grownostr


When we're tired, sick or just not feeling well, it seems even more like everything has gone wrong. Or worse, like we're going backwards in our healing. This is the time to give ourselves extra grace and compassion. Our minds don't work as well when our body's are not working well and that's ok. Allow yourself time and kindness to work through it. #grownostr
No one is truly safe around narcissists. Collateral damage is a constant around them unless you're fortunate enough to not be the target. No one is innocent in their world except for them. There's no length they won't go to to get what they want even if it destroys them in the process. #grownostr


We all avoid emotions to some extent. If we're willing to admit it to ourselves or anyone else another story. It's ok if we are doing this, but we don't want to get stuck there. We must allow and process these emotions if we want to move forward with our lives. It also makes the journey much better! #grownostr
Grief is not easy to work through and there are many layers to it. We end up feeling like we shouldn't feel the way we do, or it shouldn't feel this way or take this much time. It is a very individual experience for everyone. We get to feel the way we do and go through it in our own way and time. #grownostr
I suppose the exception is they are genuinely narcissists, which is anything but genuine. This is because they have no sense of self or who they are. Everything they do is to manipulate for more of everything. There is never enough of more and it will never be enough. Opt out of their game! #grownostr 

Too many times we rerun what we've done and said and question everything we did. We couldn't have made things better because we were not the only issue in the relationship. They were just trying to get us to believe we were the only problem. You can't have a healthy relationship with a toxic person! #grownostr
You'll be lucky to get breadcrumbs and they will manipulate you to think they are giving you everything. The reality is you will never even get close to the bare minimum. Anything they give you will be to show everyone else "how good they are". It's a lie and a deception! We don't have to participate in their illusion! #grownostr


Even when narcissists seem to get away with everything in the short term. In the long term they end up burning every relationship they have and die alone, miserable and lonely. They are perpetual victims of their own demise and it follows them through their lives. Eventually it catches up with them. #grownostr 

I won't say we need to go through this, because I don't believe that. We certainly didn't deserve it either.
It's often a catalyst though for really making changes in our lives in a positive way. It can be a time of huge positive growth, if we choose this. None of it is easy and I know this. It is possible for everyone to move forward with their lives no matter where they start. #grownostr
We've strived enough to be enough for the wrong people. Stop trying to prove your worth. The right person will see it. These people will see your value and you will always be enough for them. Your value and worth will be reciprocated. We will never get this from the wrong person no matter how hard we try. #grownostr


Narcissists will say you're punishing them when we don't do what they want. You’re not being mean. You’re saving yourself. We must hold healthy boundaries to protect ourselves. Often, with toxic people, the only boundary that's safe is no contact at least until we can build healthy boundaries. #grownostr


Narcissists feed off your reactions. The more you engage, the more they win. It doesn't matter how you engage with them, it only matters that you do. The real power is in indifference. Do everything you can to get out of the relationship and away from them. Walk away and never look back. #grownostr 

Some days are hard and it just doesn’t make sense and that’s ok. What’s worse is we often beat ourselves or think we shouldn’t feel that way, which makes it harder to let go of these emotions. It usually takes time to work through it. Be kind to yourself and know you can and will get through this. #grownostr
So many times after doing something fun and exciting that we love, we almost feel sad afterwards and sometimes do. I think this is normal after feeling the high of actually doing the thing. I also think this is something that perhaps should be talked about more. The big thing is allowing ourselves to feel however we do no matter what anyone else has to say about it. Or the way we think we should feel. And of course be kind to ourselves through the process. #grownostr
If you didn't see the last video talking about the Ted Fest music festival I went to, this is what I'm talking about. It was nice because I had no choice, but not be on my phone or working. It was magical and I think it's much needed for anyone who is on all the time, whether for work or not. Find a place and a time and go dark, even for a little time. We all need it! #grownostr
Everyone has all their thoughts about what it should look like for us to move forward. Many of them don’t understand what it’s actually like to go through. Most of the time the small things we do are the big things especially in the beginning. Those are the major accomplishments of moving forward. Be kind to you no matter what anyone else says or thinks about it. #grownostr
You don’t owe anyone access to your life. If someone is toxic, manipulative, or draining your energy, it’s okay to walk away—no guilt, no explanation. Protecting your peace isn’t selfish; it’s self-respect. Many other people will have their thoughts about all of it and that's ok. Staying true to ourselves is the most important part! #grownostr 

Narcissists make you feel unworthy so they can keep you small and dependent. But the truth is, their inability to love was never about you. Healthy love exists. It’s not something you have to beg for—it’s something you deserve. We simply must find the people who can reciprocate the same love we give! #grownostr

