Trusting ourselves is hard enough after toxic relationships. Trusting everyone else is even harder. Good, genuine people actually expect that trust builds as the relationship does. We don’t owe trust to anyone for any reason. We all get to do the work to earn the trust. #grownostr
First of all, this is not something for us to shame or judge ourselves about. This is definitely something for us to become consciously aware of though. It is very hard to find solutions to move forward with our lives while we are only focusing on the problems. Acknowledge them, then move forward. #grownostr
Narcissists are all so very different, which makes it incredibly hard to spot them. I don’t think anyone can simply just spot all of them in first meeting them. It takes time to get to know them. Some will show themselves sooner than others, just as some are more severe narcissists than others. #grownostr
Too many people doubt they have the strength it takes to heal from narcissistic abuse. If you made it through it, you have all the strength you need. It's not scarier or harder to heal, it's just different. Unlike toxic relationships, healing gets easier over time. Get the support and do the work! #grownostr
Narcissists and their abuse doesn’t make sense to us, because they don’t behave like us. We can’t understand why they do what they do because we wouldn’t do it to someone else. The biggest thing is understanding that they are the way they are, even if we don’t understand it. #grownostr
Narcissists don't want you to talk to anyone about anything going on in your life. Part of this is for isolation, but part of this is so they can keep you questioning your own reality and off balance. They don't want you or anyone else to figure out what's actually going on. Break the silence and get the support! #grownostr
We want to be truly seen and heard by another person especially in the healing process. This is healing in itself. Of course we want to work through the issues, but it’s much harder to do this without having someone who truly sees you and understands what you went through. #grownostr
After being gaslit for years we lose trust in our thoughts and intuition. It happens slowly over time and this the the same way we must gain it back. This isn't something we can wait for, we must do the work to regain it. It's not easy, but that's one of the steps in getting your life back and you're worth it! #grownostr
We search for clues, if they are a narcissist and how we will know for sure. The truth is that often we won't be able to truly know for sure no matter how much we learn. The more important truth is that it doesn't actually matter. If we are not being treated in a way that is kind, loving and supportive. This is probably the only sign we need to see to know that this is not a healthy relationship. If they are not willing to admit, face and actually work on these things. Then we have to decide how long we actually want to continue with this kind of relationship. #grownostr
When we realize we’re in an abusive relationship and we need help and support to get out. It’s usually going to feel like we are betraying them in talking to anyone else about our relationship or getting help to get out. This is a lie they’ve programmed us with. We are not betraying them! They already betrayed us when they abused us! #grownostr
Enough time being gaslit in our lives and it may be months or years later and we still question ourselves. Learning to trust our own thoughts again is a process that takes time. It requires time and consistent work to heal. Be kind and patient with yourself. You deserve the same compassion you offer everyone else! #grownostr
I’ve wondered often over the years, how many more narcissists were in my life than I already knew about. I think this is a regular thing for us to think about on our healing journey. The important part is for us to not beat ourselves up for something we didn’t yet know. Be kind to you! #grownostr
We need safe places where we can talk about and get support in working through things in our lives. If we’re in relationships where that’s not ever ok, that’s not a healthy relationship, especially if we can’t discuss it in a healthy way with our partner. In this case we need to find support anyway. #grownostr
Narcissists will share things with you to get you to open up about everything in your life. They remember everything and will begin using it against you in and after the relationship. Share things slowly in new relationships. They don't need to know everything now. If trust is earned, then share more. #grownostr
It’s a discussion and a conversation that none of us really want to have, but it’s long overdue. I’d love all the helpful suggestions and ideas we all have to flood the comments. Save any shame or judgement for some other video. #grownostr
Narcissist live in an illusion they suck you into, which then distorts our reality. This makes it very hard to see the truth of the relationship. Find people outside who see through this illusion to help you see the truth. They are out there and they want to help. Allow them to support you. #grownostr
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Narcissists may seem similar to psychopaths, but they’re definitely different even if it’s subtle. The common theme is neither one cares about anyone else. Narcissists feel shame about the things they get caught doing or the way they’re perceived, but psychopaths don’t have the shame. #grownostr
Narcissists will give the excuse of past abuse or a hard childhood as a justification for mistreating others. No matter what you've gone through, it's never an excuse to mistreat someone else. We all have the ability to choose how we treat everyone else! There is no excuse for abusing anyone else. It's never ok! #grownostr
Flying monkeys aren’t always evil or other narcissists. They always cause harm though. Some will understand in time and most won’t. It’s best to let most of them go, even though it hurts. They’ve shown they’re not safe for us at least until proven otherwise. They won’t understand if or until they’re ready to. #grownostr
