We need safe places where we can talk about and get support in working through things in our lives. If we’re in relationships where that’s not ever ok, that’s not a healthy relationship, especially if we can’t discuss it in a healthy way with our partner. In this case we need to find support anyway. #grownostr
Narcissists will share things with you to get you to open up about everything in your life. They remember everything and will begin using it against you in and after the relationship. Share things slowly in new relationships. They don't need to know everything now. If trust is earned, then share more. #grownostr
It’s a discussion and a conversation that none of us really want to have, but it’s long overdue. I’d love all the helpful suggestions and ideas we all have to flood the comments. Save any shame or judgement for some other video. #grownostr
Narcissist live in an illusion they suck you into, which then distorts our reality. This makes it very hard to see the truth of the relationship. Find people outside who see through this illusion to help you see the truth. They are out there and they want to help. Allow them to support you. #grownostr
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Narcissists may seem similar to psychopaths, but they’re definitely different even if it’s subtle. The common theme is neither one cares about anyone else. Narcissists feel shame about the things they get caught doing or the way they’re perceived, but psychopaths don’t have the shame. #grownostr
Narcissists will give the excuse of past abuse or a hard childhood as a justification for mistreating others. No matter what you've gone through, it's never an excuse to mistreat someone else. We all have the ability to choose how we treat everyone else! There is no excuse for abusing anyone else. It's never ok! #grownostr
Flying monkeys aren’t always evil or other narcissists. They always cause harm though. Some will understand in time and most won’t. It’s best to let most of them go, even though it hurts. They’ve shown they’re not safe for us at least until proven otherwise. They won’t understand if or until they’re ready to. #grownostr
Narcissists take many different forms. There is almost always a grandiosity about them. With vulnerable or covert narcissists. They must be more of a victim than everyone else. They have gone through worse according to them. This is why it isn't always easy to spot or recognize them. They are all different. #grownostr
I'm super excited! I'm going to be on a live podcast tomorrow at 3pm mountain time. Come watch and interact!!
I will be discussing narcissistic abuse, toxic relationships, healing and the struggles of healing and building a life you truly love. #grownostr
https://www.youtube.com/live/K348i-Xxoas?feature=sharedMost of us question if we are the narcissist in a relationship especially if and after the actual narcissist accuses us. Most often if we are trying to fix and work on things and we’re accountable for our actions. If we actually care about people, not just our image. We are usually not, the narcissist.#grownostr
Getting away from toxic people is the best thing we can do for ourselves and our lives. If we can't physically do it, then do everything you can to do this mentally and emotionally. Create and make the space to allow yourself to think clearly. It’s a major piece of moving forward with your life. #grownostr
I definitely try to lighten up in some ways a very hard subject. I really love what I do, but I can't imagine only talking about the darkness or in a dark way. Hope and joy and healing is what I do and hopefully I can bring some more of this into the world. #grownostr
Narcissists act and treat us like anything we ask for is too much. Just because they are unable or unwilling to give to us doesn't mean we need to settle for it. Never settle for someone who is unwilling to reciprocate the love, effort and support you give them. You deserve more! #grownostr
If you call a narcissist out as a narcissist this will bring an entire new level of anger, rage and vindictiveness. I don't recommend doing this under any circumstance at all. We are often looking for understanding or closure when we do this. It most likely won't happen. It's hopeless for them. There is hope for you though. You can learn, grow and heal from inside of yourself. #grownostr
It's hard to watch other people struggling while knowing we can help them. The only thing we can really do is show up and support them if they want to change for themselves. We can't actually do anything to get them to change. They must do that themselves. #grownostr
2 things that really piss off a narcissist. Leaving them will make them angry and they will probably try to destroy you, your character and credibility. They're probably doing this already and will now do more of it. This brings up feelings of rejection and shame. It doesn't matter if they don't want you anymore, they need you to want them. Of course, they will definitely blame you for all of this as well. #grownostr
Think of healing as more of a game of allowing, rather than something you actively do. Allow yourself the kindness, compassion and space for healing. We cannot force ourselves to give ourselves these things, we must allow ourselves to. Then we allow ourselves to embrace our own love and healing. #grownostr
It's hard for most people to change and it's even harder for narcissists to change. This is something that the majority of them simply won't do. We can want and wish and hope they will, but unless they actively do it themselves it won't happen. They may even act like they're changing, but it's almost always a trap. #grownostr
No one really wants to look at or deal with trauma in our lives, much less the stuff our parents passed on to us. Healing these wounds not only changes our lives, but it helps change everyone else’s lives around us. It’s also the way to future healthy relationships. It literally affects everything in our lives. #grownostr
