Flying monkeys aren’t always evil or other narcissists. They always cause harm though. Some will understand in time and most won’t. It’s best to let most of them go, even though it hurts. They’ve shown they’re not safe for us at least until proven otherwise. They won’t understand if or until they’re ready to. #grownostr
Narcissists take many different forms. There is almost always a grandiosity about them. With vulnerable or covert narcissists. They must be more of a victim than everyone else. They have gone through worse according to them. This is why it isn't always easy to spot or recognize them. They are all different. #grownostr
I'm super excited! I'm going to be on a live podcast tomorrow at 3pm mountain time. Come watch and interact!!
I will be discussing narcissistic abuse, toxic relationships, healing and the struggles of healing and building a life you truly love. #grownostr
https://www.youtube.com/live/K348i-Xxoas?feature=sharedMost of us question if we are the narcissist in a relationship especially if and after the actual narcissist accuses us. Most often if we are trying to fix and work on things and we’re accountable for our actions. If we actually care about people, not just our image. We are usually not, the narcissist.#grownostr
Getting away from toxic people is the best thing we can do for ourselves and our lives. If we can't physically do it, then do everything you can to do this mentally and emotionally. Create and make the space to allow yourself to think clearly. It’s a major piece of moving forward with your life. #grownostr
I definitely try to lighten up in some ways a very hard subject. I really love what I do, but I can't imagine only talking about the darkness or in a dark way. Hope and joy and healing is what I do and hopefully I can bring some more of this into the world. #grownostr
Narcissists act and treat us like anything we ask for is too much. Just because they are unable or unwilling to give to us doesn't mean we need to settle for it. Never settle for someone who is unwilling to reciprocate the love, effort and support you give them. You deserve more! #grownostr
If you call a narcissist out as a narcissist this will bring an entire new level of anger, rage and vindictiveness. I don't recommend doing this under any circumstance at all. We are often looking for understanding or closure when we do this. It most likely won't happen. It's hopeless for them. There is hope for you though. You can learn, grow and heal from inside of yourself. #grownostr
It's hard to watch other people struggling while knowing we can help them. The only thing we can really do is show up and support them if they want to change for themselves. We can't actually do anything to get them to change. They must do that themselves. #grownostr
2 things that really piss off a narcissist. Leaving them will make them angry and they will probably try to destroy you, your character and credibility. They're probably doing this already and will now do more of it. This brings up feelings of rejection and shame. It doesn't matter if they don't want you anymore, they need you to want them. Of course, they will definitely blame you for all of this as well. #grownostr
Think of healing as more of a game of allowing, rather than something you actively do. Allow yourself the kindness, compassion and space for healing. We cannot force ourselves to give ourselves these things, we must allow ourselves to. Then we allow ourselves to embrace our own love and healing. #grownostr
It's hard for most people to change and it's even harder for narcissists to change. This is something that the majority of them simply won't do. We can want and wish and hope they will, but unless they actively do it themselves it won't happen. They may even act like they're changing, but it's almost always a trap. #grownostr
No one really wants to look at or deal with trauma in our lives, much less the stuff our parents passed on to us. Healing these wounds not only changes our lives, but it helps change everyone else’s lives around us. It’s also the way to future healthy relationships. It literally affects everything in our lives. #grownostr
Narcissists create drama and use our reactions against us. Being OK is often survival of these relationships. After getting out, it's important to begin acknowledging the way we actually feel to ourselves and those we trust. This allows us to process and release these emotions. #grownostr
The target of the narcissist is often one of the only people who truly sees who they are. No one else usually gets it unless they’ve been through it and that’s ok. It doesn’t mean you didn’t actually experience the dark side of the narcissist or that the abuse didn’t happen. Only you know really what you went through. #grownostr
Narcissists want attention. That's one reason they cause chaos. It's the easiest way to get attention. Depending on what they think will get them the most attention, they will talk about being the best, or the best victim. It all comes down to attention. Either way they're better, according to them anyway. #grownostr
Narcissists definitely throw tantrums on the regular. I'm sure they'll all be offended by this description too. 🤣 I hope everyone is able to remove these people and their tantrums from their lives. It certainly makes life and moving forward much easier. #grownostr
It may not feel like it in the moment, in fact it probably feels awful, but being discarded by a narcissist is a gift. It allows us to get out and move forward with our lives without being hoovered back. Assuming it’s a final discard anyway. It’s still not easy, but it allows us to gain our freedom a little easier. #grownostr
Many of us think that if we could just do or say the right thing we could get the narcissist to change or grow up. This will never happen. If they ever change anything, it will be to better abuse or manipulate us. Because they refuse to change anything unless it benefits them. #grownostr
So many of us think that if we just do a little more, or give in a little more, or even heal a little more, things will be ok. It will always be a struggle if we stay with a narcissist. We can make it less bad, but it won’t ever actually be good. Even if we’re ok, the relationship won’t be. #grownostr
