We should feel angry and have all the other emotions. We gave someone everything that only took from us and then demanded more. It's natural for us to have these emotions. It was real for us, even if it was fake for them. We must allow ourselves to feel the way we do in order to process and let go of these emotions. This is part of the path forward for us. It's not easy, but it's worth it and so are you! Healing from narcissistic abuse is inevitable when you have the right tools and support. Personal empowerment is the way. This is what I do. I coach and teach you how to take and build the life you want. To never be beholden to anyone again including our own thoughts. Dm me or schedule a consultation through the link in my bio. #awareness #narcissisticabuseawareness #narcissisticabuserecovery #narcissisticabuserecoverycoach #narcissist #narcissistsurvivor #narcissisticabuse #narcissisticabusesurvivor #personalempowerment #grownostr #personalempowermentcoach

Forgiving myself has been one of the hardest things I've ever done. I have also realized that there are many layers to this. It's a lifelong process, rather than being something that is ever accomplished. This is also something that you allow yourself to do. It is not something you can force yourself to do. The "WORK" in this is mostly allowing. Allowing ourselves to have the thoughts and feelings without making them or us wrong or bad. #grownostr

Narcissists usually have one target in their lives. This is often the only person that actually sees the abuse. This is why no one else thinks anything is wrong, because it is hidden. They also shame their victims from ever talking to anyone else about anything happening in the relationship. We must break the silence in order to get help and get out of these relationships. Find good people who will listen, they are out there. Healing from narcissistic abuse is inevitable when you have the right tools and support. Personal empowerment is the way. This is what I do. I coach and teach you how to take and build the life you want. To never be beholden to anyone again including our own thoughts. Dm me or schedule a consultation through the link in my bio. #awareness #narcissisticabuseawareness #narcissisticabuserecovery #narcissisticabuserecoverycoach #narcissist #narcissistsurvivor #narcissisticabuse #narcissisticabusesurvivor #personalempowerment #grownostr #personalempowermentcoach

Proud of me and I'm taking the time to acknowledge and capture it. This is also a reminder for all of you out there to find things to be proud of yourself for as well. We always find what we're looking for. Look for more gratitude and you'll find it. The next step is allowing yourself to embrace it.

Don't ever think "They won't use that against me" because they will. They will catalogue everything they can about you and make up the rest. Ultimately it will all be used against you at some point and then continuously. Reacting as little as possible is one of the best defenses. #grownostr

It seems like every single little simple thing we want to do ends up having a number, or a dozen, other steps in order to get it done. I could be frustrated or angry, but I laughed and let the emotions out that way. Sometimes it is frustrating, but I get to choose how I want to feel. Many times I do have to work through emotions I don't want to get to the ones I do want, but it's better than feeling different than what I actually want. We can all do this, if we learn and take the time to.

Their words are designed to stab and cut us down, but in a way that no one else can see it. They learn everything about you to be able to use all of it against you. They know what they're doing even if no one else can see it. Don't believe their lies. They will try to hide it and excuse it away. Everyone else might even believe them, but you don't have to.  #grownostr

There will always be new problems and situations to work through no matter how much we grow. The good news is we can learn the skills to work through everything that happens. It's a skill anyone can learn if they decide to. It makes the challenges we face in life not really a big deal to work through even if they are. It doesn't make problems go away, but it makes us more capable of handling them when they come. Healing from narcissistic abuse is inevitable when you have the right tools and support. Personal empowerment is the way. This is what I do. I coach and teach you how to take and build the life you want. To never be beholden to anyone again including our own thoughts. Dm me or schedule a consultation through the link in my bio. #awareness #narcissisticabuseawareness #narcissisticabuserecovery #narcissisticabuserecoverycoach #narcissist #narcissistsurvivor #narcissisticabuse #narcissisticabusesurvivor #personalempowerment #grownostr #personalempowermentcoach

Every single narcissist will show up different in every single relationship. They will look different in their next relationship, just as they do with other people. They are literally different people continuously changing, although never for the better. This is why it's so hard to spot them even if we've seen another one like them. It's also why going slow in relationships is essential. It gives them time to show who they really are. Healing from narcissistic abuse is inevitable when you have the right tools and support. Personal empowerment is the way. This is what I do. I coach and teach you how to take and build the life you want. To never be beholden to anyone again including our own thoughts. Dm me or schedule a consultation through the link in my bio. #awareness #narcissisticabuseawareness #narcissisticabuserecovery #narcissisticabuserecoverycoach #narcissist #narcissistsurvivor #narcissisticabuse #narcissisticabusesurvivor #personalempowerment #grownostr #personalempowermentcoach

If they can't find reasons to isolate you from everyone in your life. They will make things up. They can't allow you to have a relationship with anyone that may allow you to see through the illusion they have created. They will stop at nothing. #grownostr

The more we forgive narcissists, the more permission they think they have to take even more. They don't and won't feel bad about it even if they give a half way apology. This is only to reinforce them being able to do what they want. The more we forgive, the more they also feel entitled to this forgiveness too. It's not ok and it's not right, but it is how they think about it. Healing from narcissistic abuse is inevitable when you have the right tools and support. Personal empowerment is the way. This is what I do. I coach and teach you how to take and build the life you want. To never be beholden to anyone again including our own thoughts. Dm me or schedule a consultation through the link in my bio. #awareness #narcissisticabuseawareness #narcissisticabuserecovery #narcissisticabuserecoverycoach #narcissist #narcissistsurvivor #narcissisticabuse #narcissisticabusesurvivor #personalempowerment #grownostr #personalempowermentcoach

Most of us want to find our people or that special relationship for us, if we haven’t given up for the moment. It’s very hard to find those people if we haven’t taken the time to find ourselves. It’s not the answer we want, but it is the truth. Invest the time in finding you and the people that are right will begin to show up in your life. Healing from narcissistic abuse is inevitable when you have the right tools and support. Personal empowerment is the way. This is what I do. I coach and teach you how to take and build the life you want. To never be beholden to anyone again including our own thoughts. Dm me or schedule a consultation through the link in my bio. #awareness #narcissisticabuseawareness #narcissisticabuserecovery #narcissisticabuserecoverycoach #narcissist #narcissistsurvivor #narcissisticabuse #narcissisticabusesurvivor #personalempowerment #grownostr #personalempowermentcoach

Narcissists will run over or through every single boundary we set, if we let them. I realize this is not simple or easy. In some relationships it may be nearly impossible. However, I believe in almost every relationship we can begin setting boundaries. This may lead to the end of the relationship because we are no longer good supply to them. This is the best thing we can do in most situations, even though it’s hard. #grownostr

The comment I received was "The more we watch videos about narcissism, the more we realize it is better to be a narc than to be the victim". There may be a slight truth in this in the short term. In the long term I would never want to live their miserable lives. Watch to the end for the real realization. Healing from narcissistic abuse is inevitable when you have the right tools and support. Personal empowerment is the way. This is what I do. I coach and teach you how to take your life back and build the life you want. To never be beholden to anyone again including our own thoughts. Dm me or schedule a consultation through the link in my bio. #awareness #narcissisticabuseawareness #narcissisticabuserecovery #narcissisticabuserecoverycoach #narcissist #narcissistsurvivor #narcissisticabuse #narcissisticabusesurvivor #personalempowerment #grownostr #personalempowermentcoach

Happy Pi day to all of you exquisite, wonderful, incredible, beautiful people. Whether you celebrate or not, you're still wonderful and I love you all! #grownostr

Not really a shoutout to the toxic people, but they do continue to do things that give me more content ideas every single day. I wish they would practice these things on other toxic people though, instead of good people that don't deserve it. I hope you continue to see more of these toxic patterns and distance yourself or remove yourself from these toxic people. We don't need them in our lives. Healing from narcissistic abuse is inevitable when you have the right tools and support. Personal empowerment is the way. This is what I do. I coach and teach you how to take and build the life you want. To never be beholden to anyone again including our own thoughts. Dm me or schedule a consultation through the link in my bio. #awareness #narcissisticabuseawareness #narcissisticabuserecovery #narcissisticabuserecoverycoach #narcissist #narcissistsurvivor #narcissisticabuse #narcissisticabusesurvivor #personalempowerment #grownostr #personalempowermentcoach

Narcissists will exhaust you in every way they can. They will continue to take and use you until there’s nothing left. Then they will demand more and shame you for not having any more. If someone is only taking and not contributing to your life. CUT THEM OFF! They’ve had enough! The more we do the things that are important to us no matter if they approve or not, the more likely they will end the relationship. They can’t be in a relationship with someone that prioritizes their needs over the narcissists. #grownostr

Narcissists choose the best people with the best traits they can. Of course, then they want to suck the life and resources out of us. This isn't ok. It's also not ok the way they try to brainwash into thinking we aren't good enough. It's a lie! They chose us because we were the best! It's time for us to move on and shed the illusion they tried to capture us in. Healing from narcissistic abuse is inevitable when you have the right tools and support. Personal empowerment is the way. This is what I do. I coach and teach you how to take and build the life you want. To never be beholden to anyone again including our own thoughts. Dm me or schedule a consultation through the link in my bio. #awareness #narcissisticabuseawareness #narcissisticabuserecovery #narcissisticabuserecoverycoach #narcissist #narcissistsurvivor #narcissisticabuse #narcissisticabusesurvivor #personalempowerment #grownostr #personalempowermentcoach

The level of entitlement narcissists have is beyond what we even expect when we've experienced it. This seems crazy, but truth is stranger than fiction. There is never enough of more and more entitlement is what you can expect from a narcissist. Realize they don't deserve it and we don't need to give them out time, attention, energy or any other stuff. They've already had enough and we have too. Healing from narcissistic abuse is inevitable when you have the right tools and support. Personal empowerment is the way. This is what I do. I coach and teach you how to take and build the life you want. To never be beholden to anyone again including our own thoughts. Dm me or schedule a consultation through the link in my bio. #awareness #narcissisticabuseawareness #narcissisticabuserecovery #narcissisticabuserecoverycoach #narcissist #narcissistsurvivor #narcissisticabuse #narcissisticabusesurvivor #personalempowerment #grownostr #personalempowermentcoach

Whether they are aware of it or not, narcissists turn everything into chaos. The chaos keeps us off balance and allows them to control everything including the narrative of the story of our lives. The best thing for us to do is not respond. Take a break, take a walk, leave the room. They will be angry either way, but we are less likely to give them more to use against us if we aren't there. #grownostr