Becoming older really has its gifts. While there has been a lot of pain, turmoil, and hard lessons; I’m finally old enough to learn from all of the difficulties rather than just repeating them over and over.
I’m finally finding the solidity and grace to simply be unapologetically who I am, rather than trying to be someone I am not. It’s refreshing—I’ve been longing to find this place in myself for most of adulthood and excited what I am going to do with it, not just for myself, but for my family, friends, and for the world.
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Completely agree. Finally at the rather be hated for who I am than loved for who I’m not stage. The big lesson for me? No one cares. You have infinite runway to speed off in any direction you choose.
This is the REAL Self Sovereignty brother. There is hope for humanity 💓😉
How would you act how you are not ? Or what would you hide from others. I’m trying to find this for myself for some things
To quote Lil Wayne - “I’m a pick the world up and I’m a drop it on yo fucking head”
I’m done hiding—which is a big part of it. Really I just need to lean more into ‘me’ but I’ve pin pointed for myself those ways that I want to be. I am making an active choice not just to cultivate that, but also to no longer surround myself with those that don’t accept that.
Welcome to the 2nd half of life. Some people never reach this part of the journey.
💯. Ideally you have some grey hair. Grey hair lets people know we’re wise to their BS and unlikely to be swayed, so they just let us be. Never hide the grey🚁😀
I'm there also. Shouldn't take this long to come that epiphany.
Love to hear it. Thanks for sharing. I'm on the same journey, although in the early innings of it.
Care to share something specific about yourself that you've come to truly own?
I'm working on accepting that the old me from pre-covid times—well-liked, super social, and naive—is dead and gone.
I'm also working on owning my desires, which I have felt a lot of shame about. I thought I had to be a stoic monk on a mountaintop.
"I’m finally finding the solidity and grace to simply be unapologetically who I am"
Holy shyt, so well said. Erik has made it through to the other side.
For the rest of us, we're likely just beginning. Proof of Heart is here to guide you, when you're ready.
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Congrats man. It is nice, as we age, we gain confidence and an ability to be secure in who we really are. It’s freeing to not have to pretend to be someone we’re not. As far as knowledge goes though, I just grabbed the hot oven rack a couple weeks ago. Maybe that comes later lol
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This is correct! It's quite possible that the positives of getting older outweigh the negatives, if you play it right...
Had the same experience. Spent most of my life being who I was 'supposed to be', and the last ten or so being me (and figuring out who that is!). Well worth the journey!
The most beautiful words you said that now you know who you are or you no longer have to pretend to be who you are not. Wonderful deduction. I think that was your turning point friend
I’m on the same journey as you brother 🫡
