And they have the same weight in the network... That's my point. It's not nonsense.

Please explain to me what do you mean with "weight in the network", because it's not clear at all. Also, what do you mean with "network" itself? Do you mean the p2p relay network? Do you mean the mining block templates network? ...

My nodes vote counts just as much as yours

What?!? Bitcoin is not about voting. What do you think it is? Run your own node with your preferred rules, and that's what would be valid for you. Everyone sharing the same consensus rules would be "in consensus". That's all. There's no vote anywhere.