Thats a problem for the relay really. My problem is that its visible and cluttering my stuff. A syncable event that tells amethyst not to display that anymore shouldn't have to depend on how well the relays work. If amethyst is capable of it where did you hide the delete button so I can leave those DM's?

A "request deletion of entire mesage thread," however, would be an excellent feature.

Click and hold, delete. But unless you have a good relay, it won't matter. Also, relays can delete all your DMs with a simple request. Amethyst can only do one by one.

Yep, but without relays actually deleting them, the message will come back over and over again, just to be deleted when the phone loads the deletion request locally. Nothing Amethyst can do beats a good relay.

Is there a normie friendly micro client out there with this all DMs function?

I'm aware of the relay integrity factor. Assuming I'm using well-behaved relays, an option to request deletion of an entire DM conversation in Amethyst would be nice. Maybe just long press on the conversation thread (before it's open) and select request delete all. Saves users from having to manually request delete for every single message.

How are you supposed to request a relay to delete nip-17 gift wraps when you can't prove you created them?

They delete by p-tags. They are the p-tag's wraps. Nobody else has any control over them.

I still do not see a button for this. If its there its well hidden. I am not trying to delete my own messages, I am trying to delete unsolicited conversations to declutter the DM's.

On the client, you can only delete your own things for now. But on your inbox relay, you can do whatever you want. That's why it is so important to talk to them. We will develop features to hide events from others but if they are not erased from the relay, over time they will just consume more and more data.