Being righteous, and having your own thing going on. (I personally respect men who have clear and consistent boundaries.)

Yup, what nostronaut suggests here isn't going to save years of pain. He gets a few things right but those things alone are not going to help in his next relationship. Ofcourse most women will verbally agree with what he said but it won't change how they feel about him. He's missing key aspects such as what women are attracted to, which is the most vital part to keep a woman interested in you. And what attracts them has nothing to do with anything in his post. As @Hodl Harry said, Patrice O'Neal is an excellent eye-opener.