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Always assume people will betray you, specially if money is involved, and SPECIALLY if it's your woman.

not my partner. blood relative

GM 😘.. Live and let God... I use the serenity prayer for occurrences like that... sometimes if it's something I can't control I vent out here on nostr or to my best friend 💜

Betrayal is one of the hardest of experiences to manage. Often it leads to anger and then resentment. Sadly, resentment is the glue of fear In my experience, the best way forward is to release all resentment to source All the people involved, the situation itself, your own actions, just release it all Good luck Easier said than done

i like it, a good starting point

Draw a firm boundary with them; tell them to fuck off etc. then have no further engagement. Insulate yourself from their behavior and access to you. Handle your emotions privately / with a professional if needed. It's a reflection of them not you. No response does not signal weakness. Consider forgiving them on your terms after they make a sincere apology. I've been through similar with someone, the anxiety and stress associated with the situation was very difficult.

I'm glad I could help..thanks for the sats

Do you have a close one to talk to? That’s how I’d need to deal with it. Talk it through with another human being you trust.

Do you have anyone to confide in? If not, a therapist would work. You can also try journaling your thoughts, writing a letter to this family member (that you don't send), but to get your thoughts out. Sorry fren 🫂

Tell them about the sign outside that reads "No fucking off past this point". Tell them to go up to that sign and be all they can be and just keep on going.

Tell them about the sign outside that reads "No fucking off past this point". Tell them to go up to that sign and be all they can be and just keep on going.

Was money involved?

Dang, sounds horrible. Sorry you going through that Julian.

Sorry about that, bro!

GOOD MORNING 🤙🌞

I’m going through a similar thing with people i am in business with. It sucks. Not sure what to do either, but in my mind I’m making peace with all outcomes. Im ready for the worst possible financial outcome, and loss of old friendships. But, My conscience is clear, and I sleep well at night. Head down, focusing on my craft and family. Keep on keeping on bother, this too shall pass.

Be future oriented. What’s done is done and you can’t change it. Consider this experience the price that needed to be paid for an important lesson. What matters is now is protecting yourself from future betrayals. Vet everyone carefully including family. Blood doesn’t mean shit.

My strategy for a very very roughly similar situation, cut them off entirely and try to just live your life

In my experience, I spent a very long time processing it. There is no answer that does not come from within.

You’re not crazy. You’re not weak. You’re not alone. Feel what you feel. Protect your peace. Say no. Rest. Breathe. You don’t owe anyone access to your heart just because they share your blood. This isn’t the end of your story.

thanks for all the kind advice guys. turning a page on this finally. for others in a similar boat now or in the future, things that have helped me process betrayal/anger: 1) the serenity prayer, observed twice daily 2) cold showers 3) 5km runs listening to Lynyrd Skynyrd - Street Survivors 4) DMT 5) friends who can keep a secret and don’t give a fuck about the law nostr:nevent1qqstj8uavzsrcfwz3dwy96qupt5e7p3xkmnmydxj6c8jp6guxq6788cppemhxue69uh5qmn0wvhxcmmvem9q0m

Dealt with this regarding a close relative via marriage. Left no choice but to cut them out of our lives. Absolutely crucial move.