Are you paying for nostr.wine? If so, that goes in the Outbox. Remove from Inbox. I would keep 3 other relays in Inbox and Outbox and delete the rest. Just pick the most important to you. Click the Default button on Search to add search relays and make @ tagging work better.

Okay, if inbox relays should be free, how do I keep a copy of my DMs if the relays I run I charge a fee to use so I don't get spammed? This rule means if I add my relays to my DMs, then I don't get notifications?