I use it all the time for all the 3D printers and other nodes Works excellent. & also have SSH enabled so I can do the fine-detailed things & on one desktop I have full desktop view as if I'm sitting there Amazing

Headscale has some limits around ACL functionality that the tailscale coordinator has, and obviously doesn't have a flashy full-featured admin interface, but it more than gets the job done for a small user network. Mine's been going for at least a few years. Tailscale alone is pretty safe. They'll know your device & network layout, and how much traffic each uses, but nothing more granular than that. Technically, you can do a lot with it running from a home server & on your phone on the go.