I know, I have looked at a few, and always felt that they were all too theoretical. "Choose a relay that people you follow use" or similar. And I just don't want to do that work... When I have done it in the past I end up on some now abandoned relay... I am a sw dev, and a longtime bitcoiner, so quite a techy person. But there are so many things I would rather do with my time... I feel this is making nostr hard to adopt.

Let me see what I can come up with.

Would be awesome! Aim for "good enough", and personally I would not mind paid relays, but I kinda need to know that it is actually going to to be better than other options.