Sorry for my delayed response, Nostr isn't addictive, so I only check when I'm free :⁠-⁠P Maybe my "tit for tat" name has too much of a -ve connotation. It can also be +vely reinforcing. E.g. I've a few friends, when they commit, that's written in stone, no matter what weather, they'll show up, barring an emergency. When they can't commit, they are very clear from the start. So for these friends, I'll clear out my day. There's a friend who has a baby, of course sometimes she has to cancel, and I don't count it as a -ve because that's understandable. I agree with the 3 points you made. I'm in Europe, but I'm from Asia. Socialising is very difficult for me here. I feel people back home put in a lot more effort into friendships, than here. I'm not new here, most of the friends I made are from my earlier days when I had the energy to be like home regardless, and it stuck for a small set of people. So maybe my "tit for tat" is a way to not have to put in as much effort, and yet, find a simple to follow habit that helps me socialise in a still pretty foreign culture. So far it has landed me with a handful of nice new friends despite those factors :⁠-⁠)