Our clients are uncompromising. We now only use our own selection of trusted relays as inboxes, as we can find everyone with them, and it saves us all a support headache. I pull the user relay lists for outboxes, only. People who don't like that can use a different client or add in their local relays, and stream notes in over that. Tired of building nice things and users freaking out because they're too lazy or cheap to switch the relays.