Which software/hardware u use or is there a special rec. For Newbs

Well first you need either a Lightning Service Provider or a lightning node. A service provider runs a node for you essentially so the bitcoin won't be in self-custody. The trade-off is that it is easier for new people. I recommend #Zeus. If you want your own node to have self-custody, but are not comfortable with setting it up, you can purchase a service and hardware from companies like #Start9 and #Umbrel. They build servers that are geared towards people who aren't technical. You can easily install a lightning node as simply as installing an app on your phone with them. They package software that can help you manage the node as well.