The block size war clarified the existing nature of the system, which is that miners can't unilaterally decide on a softfork against the wishes of nodes used by economic actors. This was just a fact that we learned, and not some agreement that was reached saying miners must obey people's wishes. In this current drama, miners are already mining large OP_RETURNs, and we are not debating a consensus change. We know that miners will continue to mine large OP_RETURNs regardless of what some nodes will relay. Miners do not, and will not, obey your node. Bitcoin forces actors to face harsh technical realities, and people who harbor idealistic fantasies are forced to abandon them. You can hold on to them for a while, at the expense of decentralization through mempool fragmentation and private mempools favoring the largest miners. I wish you wouldn't, but in a while, you won't.