Emotion + Response = Outcome
This was an equation I've learned and operated under for years. Mastering this is difficult but we need to observe the emotion(s) before providing a response. Emotions are not the problem but 'unexamined' emotion is.
A better equation is:
Emotion + Awareness + Choice = Outcome
At the moment, I am observing sadness but I know its tied to grief. And grief, has many layers of other emotions, including anger. So, I have to be careful of how I respond to stress (people and situations) if I want a positive outcome to my benefit.
I told Mom to stay away from certain people because she's not at this point yet and people in her circle say the stupidest things and do not consider her grieving and how their words affect her from healing.
We cannot bring him back.
Stay humble and do the work!