For the last one I remember previously think the man was insanely strong and could handle anything; because he had helped me through some really hard times in my life and was always able to handle any situation it seemed. But as that year wore on what I realized was that he had been incredibly lucky in life and hadn't really hard to deal with hard times himself before. Perhaps he thought by not crying he was not showing emotions.... But he was. He developed really explosive anger about extremely small petty things. I tried my best to be there for him and his family, but because I would acknowledge the sadness and emotional difficulties he started accusing me of thinking he was weak. So if I tried to help I got explosive anger turned towards me, and if I didn't help his explosive anger would turn towards our pets, belongings, and even his nephew at one point. The end was very ugly and while I am proud of myself for trying to be there for him, I am glad it ended because it wouldn't have gotten any better. Ignoring reality and then getting violent about those who don't is not a way to demonstrate strength.