Yes, Garnet is very out of date, wouldnt recommend using it. The Amethyst guys have been talking about adding Monero or making a fork for it. You can't or dont want to use Mostard? Not sure what was going on earlier, but it works for me right now, and I've never seen the website down before. Nostr isn't bitcoin lightning-only. It's an agnostic protocol. v4v service: https://xmrchat.com/ Idk if you listen to Ungorvernable Misfits, but they've been using xmrchat for months. Many other podcasts/youtubers use it as well. Some you might know and some you might not. Do p2p markets count as v4v?:

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