yea my bad for using the 3 big ones still. clients seem to want you to limit the relays to 4 and then you get no reach if you only use the smaller ones then people complain they never saw your note unless it went to a big one I dunno what to say :\

here's the thing - if you are onboarding a n00b, they are gonna be on one of the big three. and no WOT. and a F ton of comment spam. so how do you get around this problem? if they don't already have a community built around them?