I do blame proton though, if you don't want me using the VPN, disable that, but don't ban my emails and proton pass and stuff.

It is the reason. So, now you have to pay more because someone is not thinking of the users when they implement “great” features

Use a proxy relay, that will disable the outbox mode. A WoT relay configured for your user, filter.nostr.wine or aggr.nostr.land are good choices.

I haven't run into any issues with mullvad or iVPN since the update. Both take lightning for payment too.

Will need to try that. Thanks

I always think the best use of using VPN is when you are on public network , Yesterday I was drinking at coffee house and I switch on my VPN and it was great . Also the same when I am at the airport , I used my VPN after log in to the airport public service . When I am at home , there is no need of that VPN.

This will make you more traceable on Nostr. Image hosts, every relay, people's nip-05 servers, and any links that have previews will all see your actual IP address. This could be used to identify you potentially.