In a marriage, neither spouse should place themselves in environments where they will be surrounded by people actively seeking attention or intimacy from them.
For men, this often looks like “boys’ trips” to places where women are flirtatious, aggressive, and openly testing boundaries. No wife wants her husband surrounded by that energy — because even if he resists, the environment itself is unnecessary and disrespectful.
For women, the equivalent isn’t limited to wild party settings. The reality is that single men are everywhere — at beaches, resorts, tourist spots, restaurants — and they will almost always approach women in groups. A wife on a “girls’ trip” will inevitably face advances from men she doesn’t know, just as surely as a husband would on a riskier “boys’ trip.”
The principle is fairness: If wives would never want their men traveling into environments where women hit on them, then wives should respect the same standard when men inevitably approach them. Saying “it’s different” is not an argument — it’s ignoring the double standard.
Some will argue: “But nothing will happen — just trust me.” But trust is more than resisting temptation in the moment. Trust means not putting yourself in predictable situations where people will test that boundary again and again.
Others will say: “That’s too extreme — men and women exist everywhere.” True — but ordinary life (work, errands, daily routines) is unavoidable. Optional leisure trips that guarantee exposure to advances are not. Choosing them anyway shows that personal indulgence matters more than your spouse’s peace of mind.
The rule is simple: If it’s not okay for husbands to surround themselves with women hitting on them, it’s not okay for wives to surround themselves with men who will inevitably try the same. Respect cuts both ways, and in marriage, the standard must be mutual.
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