is there a guide for this

no, that's exactly what the outbox model is, and the clients your followers use need to use it; that's why we insist on its importance so much; it (or something like it) is the only way nostr can become decentralized

I find crowbars work nicely. Slap it against the palm of your hand a few times. They will get the point. More seriously now, I recently rewrote my webpage on this: https://mikedilger.com/gossip-model/