I know what I’m going to say may sound more aspirational than practical, IMMV, but if you’re in a position where you don’t need to bend your nature to please others, don’t volunteer to do it. Just be yourself. Despite not fitting US definitions of "whiteness", physically I’m as white as it gets. Unfortunately, the Tommy Robinson hooligan types often mistake me for one of their own until they hear me speak. Regardless of their level of wealth or education (here in the UK we have some Oxbridge-educated “Pub Landlord” types who would put Al Murray’s character to shame), the fact is: they are small. You are big. Don’t make yourself smaller for their benefit. And honestly, it’s fun to watch these muppets turn red shouting “I’m not racist!” without you even needing to say a word.