Age is a cultural context… you are stuck in the weeds of a circular axiom- that age would be the defining feature of abuse. It is not. I will spare you the vicarious trauma of explaining what happens to a minor child’s body when they are raped by an adult who is too big for them… most of society is largely shielded from this information because people like me remain largely outside of public exposure. If you are a computer programmer, you do not question the logic that an HDMI does not fit a USB C input, the action of interacting with those concepts (inputs and outputs) are self-evident in their design If violence or coercion (inherent in predatory like behaviors) has been part of an interaction, it is self-evident in the outcome.