Relay bots that walk you through setup and optimize your relays for you, remove underperforming or dead ones, recommend better ones. That would be a valuable service.

Well, i think my point is more on the side of 'if users understand what is going on in the first place, it does not matter how crap the interface is, they will just use the interface they have to perform the task one way or another'. I get that as an app developer this is not of much use to you, but in general perhaps we need to stop pretending the first few waves of Nostr users (that are actually going to stick around and use it) are not retarded toddlers that can only manage when everything is reduced to a single button. The second part of my point is that at this stage the ecosystem as a whole simply lacks understanding on the matter of relays. Now don't get me wrong, i am not blaming anyone, its all new, we are all figuring this shit out, its a new paradigm and surely we have not explored the territory fully anyway....BUT I will say that a tendency to hide relays into the background is not helping. Don't be afraid of exposing the user of the scary new thing it does not understand yet, instead of shoving Nostr into the legacy app shaped box only because it is familiar to them. But again, i don't have an app to take care of and users to please, i am just an armchair sideline asshole.

Also just to clarify to make sure there is no confusion, i did not have anything or anyone in particular in mind, so i was not talking about damus(dont have an iphone, never used it) or you specifically or anything, was just talking in general.