running smaller relays is better. big relays are not just a free for all. look at primal, they censor, look at damus, it severely throttles by IP, look at nos, it feeds everything to LLMs and has sophisticated blocking.. none of which is transparent. so your utopia view of these free big relays is flawed and would never work like I think you are thinking. better to lead by example and stop pretending a big free relay will have your interest in mind or be a good experience for everyone at once. by definition it will be more closed off because its under heavy load and doing its own things to cater to more people which would mean the experience degrades over time vs. running your own.