Self custody is a spectrum not absolute. That is my point. 1 sat on a primal wallet is bitcoin. 1 share of a Bitcoin ETF is not bitcoin. Then there is everything in between. That’s a feature not a bug of decentralization. If you can use it as money it’s great. If you can control the keys - that is best. But hoarding bitcoin and accusing others of doing it wrong is hypocrisy while you spend fiat.

your point has many holes, but I'm too lazy to point them out. All I'm saying the sat you sent to saylor, did not go to saylors custody

Define "custody"