Ideally relay admins would be upfront with their policies so you could make a decision about this. But they shouldn’t have special authority, it should still be possible to request a delete esp considering the laws in some countries which require it.

I want to build a relay that pulls everything I see from other relays, so it would be connected to the same relays my client is connected to; run the same queries and save all the events that come back. It would act as a History-tab of everything I’ve seen in nostr.

Yes, the only real difference should whether they have a static IP and what events they decide to save.

what if demonocracy is bunch of