When you do not have all the factors behind the motivations. You have to look at the facts.
Is this situation normal?
Is this situation dangerous?
Does this have the potential to become life threatening?
Does this have the potential to become a warzone?
Do you want to risk living in a warzone?
If you can answer yes to all of the above. Then it is time to leave. This is not an easy decision, but it is the right one.
At worst this is an over reaction that leads to an impromptu out of state vacation.
At best this is the action that saves your life, your spouses life, and your pets life.
Choose wisely...