I am not married. The rationale for me is that when i met my (what everybody else now calls) wife I found the idea of putting up hurdles to keep us together really stupid. Now wirh more life experience i can see that what i called hurdles might actually be more like "rail guards" that may help you overcome bumps in the road along the way. In the end i do believe that everything can swing both ways. Staying forced together by marriage because you believe so much in it while being totally unhappy is not healthy while on the other hand breaking up in an impulsive way might also not be the right choice after the emotion of the impuls fades. I have been together with my "wife" for 19 years now, getting to the point where i almost shared half my life with her. Reflecting back on it i can easily tell you that the roughest times we encoutered came shortly after our eldest was born. Without a single doubt you really get to know each other when a new and tiny lives drags you through the lowest lows of your life while not being able to give up. Something a ring on your finger can never achieve.