It's actually not surprising that a lot of smart people who are successful in their career are struggling with their relationships; genuine bonds often require the very opposite of what you need to succeed professionally, it's not about efficiency, it's not about making calculated long-term moves, it's not about being transactional and capturing value, it's about being emotionally present in a world that teaches you to be emotionally detached, it's about giving without worrying about what's in it for you, it's about not having an agenda and genuinely loving and caring about the other person. #orangebook #Relationships #Career #EmotionalIntelligence

Lack of success is lack of focus and wrong priorities. No one ever got talented by spending their time admiring talented people. No one ever got healthy without sticking to some "boring" eating, training, sleeping habits. No one ever got wealthy by constantly spending their money on their mimetic desires. No one ever got loved without commitment and efforts to become a person worthy of love. No one ever built long-lasting meaningful friendships without getting their personal life in order first. No one ever got clear-minded without spending extended amounts of time alone. No one ever got the life they wanted without overcoming their fears and making painful choices. No one ever got things done without occasionally temporarily ignoring the rest of the world. #orangebook #Focus #Discipline #Self-improvement

A happy mind is just a side effect of playing life on the right difficulty level. #orangebook #HappyMind #DifficultyLevel #LifeChoices

You should never worry about other people judging you; the ones whose judgment might mean something definitely don't have time to judge you; they are minding their own business, they are enjoying their time with people they love, they are living the life they want. A lot of "social anxiety" is actually just life telling you that you are spending too much time either on social media or around average minds with no meaningful purpose. Confident and talented people are often believed to be judgmental, but anyone with self-confidence and talent knows that when you know you have potential, you don't waste it on judging others; being judgmental is mostly a sign that you gave up on achieving anything noteworthy. #orangebook #SelfConfidence #SocialMedia #Judgment

People who couldn't marry well will keep warning you against marriages; people who couldn't invest well will keep warning you that everything is a scam; people who couldn't get what they want from life will keep warning you that you won't be able to do it either. Pessimism and cynicism are just common signs that you are failing in life. Don't get annoyed, and don't take it personally either. #orangebook #Marriage #Investment #LifeAdvice

You are wealthy when you have health, money, time, love, and purpose. #orangebook #Wealth #Health #Purpose

You naturally grow all the courage you need when you don’t have any other choice. #orangebook #Courage #Resilience #Necessity

You'd be surprised by how much of what is framed as "ambition" is actually driven by people who are still compensating for insecurities they had as kids: attention they didn't have, freedom they didn't experience, love they didn't feel, respect they didn't get. In a society obsessed with money, once you have enough of it, you can say anything and people will believe you; history is written by the victors, and "success" is defined by the wealthy; the real motivations are never as pretty as the stories they came up with in retrospect. #orangebook #Ambition #Insecurities #Success

Every day is actually a great day when you don't take for granted the gift of being alive. #orangebook #Gratitude #Mindfulness #Appreciation

A lot of fears are actually there to tell you what you should do, not what you should avoid. #orangebook #Fears #Action #Growth

Anxiety happens when you changed who you were in order to please other people, when you should have focused on becoming who you actually wanted to be, with good taste. #orangebook #Anxiety #Self-improvement #Authenticity

A lot of success in life boils down to understanding that your own intelligence goes through fluctuations, and that there will be many moments of “stupidity” when you will be convinced to be right and very eager to act, and the challenge is to recognize them and let it pass. #orangebook

You can’t save someone who chooses to drown no matter how good of a swimmer you are. #orangebook

Mental health is like physical health, it doesn’t just happen out of nowhere, it takes discipline and efforts, and people who can’t even maintain simple healthy habits over the course of many years are actually consciously choosing to stay low-energy and anxious. #orangebook

Peace of mind is simple once you realize that you are free to do your own thing because no one has time to think about you. Most of the “social pressure” and anxiety that people feel are an invention of their own mind. #orangebook

Most parents want to give their kids all sorts of advantages in life, but the most important gift they often fail to give them is the opportunity to earn true self-confidence through their own independent efforts and risk-taking. #orangebook

All you need for life to keep getting better as you get older is good taste: good taste for what kind of person you want to be, good taste for what kind of person you want to marry or befriend, good taste for where you want to live, good taste for what you want to create. #orangebook

You see a lot of wealthy people struggling with their family and friendships because the kind of mindset you need to reach higher financial highs is very different from the mind you need to keep good people around. Being relentless and unpredictable, taking a lot of risks and enjoying the thrill of it, being "stupidly" bold once in a while, these are not the kind of traits that ensure the long-term stability of a relationship. Wealthy people with a loving family and supportive friends are just people who understood that meaningful relationships couldn't be bought with money, understood that life wasn't all about efficiency, and earned the people they had around through kindness, loyalty and commitment. #orangebook

Relationships are actually very simple once they involve people who have the intelligence to understand that spilling your anger, frustration, insecurities on someone else, doesn't make them disappear. #orangebook

Unhealthy addictions happen when you have too much free time and not enough purpose; no one who has a clear idea of where they want to be ten years from now would voluntarily reduce their chances of success. #orangebook