If you were not dealt great cards at birth, the first thing you need to discard is your pride, you are not going to achieve the same as people of equivalent talent and work ethic if you started ten steps behind: whenever you feel like something is "below your line," that's when you actually have an opportunity to beat the odds. #orangebook #Pride #Opportunity #Achievement

You want your kids to grow self-confident, you need to let them make the mistakes that you yourself had to make in order to grow, stop solving all their problems for them. If you grew up with parents who believed in your ability to fix your problems, you were very lucky already. #orangebook #SelfConfidence #ParentingAdvice #Mistakes

Being proud of being busy all the time is effectively the same as being proud of working very inefficiently. #orangebook #Busyness #Efficiency #WorkCulture

There are three types of people who suddenly "disappear": those who are ashamed of who they are, those who have everything they want and understand the value of being low profile and private, and those who have a newborn to attend to. #orangebook #People #Privacy #Newborn

Most "mental struggles" are just people addicted to living in their own mind instead of actually having the courage to improve who they are, act every day, get things done. #orangebook #MentalHealth #SelfImprovement #Mindset

If you are rich, no need to pretend to be poor in front of your kids; if they are smart, no need to send them in a rough neighborhood just to "teach them" about life; you don't need to manufacture "difficult challenges" for your kids; at any level, there are plenty of very challenging goals that not accessible unless you were already coming from a certain set of "privileged" circumstances; let them go after these goals instead, that's how their potential will meaningfully grow. #orangebook #Parenting #Privilege #Potential

A common mistake of people with a lot of financial resources: they think that parenting is something they can outsource. That’s how you end up with people who grew up with every possible advantage, but who lack the emotions and warmth of someone who grew up in a loving family. #orangebook #Parenting #FinancialResources #EmotionalDevelopment

True wealth starts with becoming who you want to be, because that's the only way to be truly mentally and spiritually at peace; and most people never get there, they just unawarely end up becoming who society wanted them to be; that's why traveling and living abroad in very different cultures is so important, it makes you notice and helps you differentiate your societal conditioning from who you actually want to be. #orangebook #SelfDiscovery #SocietalConditioning #Travel

Real friends will always point it out when you are about to make a mistake that they already made. #orangebook #Friendship #Advice #Mistakes

Figuring out the right direction in life isn't a big deal if you can clearly and accurately imagine the older version of yourself on your deathbed, with all the regrets that you can still avoid. #orangebook #LifeDirection #RegretAvoidance #FutureSelf

People who never nurtured their intuition and ability to think independently love recipes and methods that they can follow mindlessly, because they get the feeling that they are learning something effortlessly, when reality is that there is no such thing as effortless learning. Effortless learning is superficial learning, and life only rewards deep learners. #orangebook #Intuition #IndependentThinking #DeepLearning

The less you take yourself seriously, the "luckier" you will get in life. Get rid of your pride and fear of embarrassment. Put yourself in situations where you will grow regardless of whether you feel like it or not. No one is watching, no one cares. You're gonna live your life, die, and be vaguely remembered for one or two generations if you had a loving family, that's about it. #orangebook #SelfImprovement #Mindset #Growth

Mentally weak people are just people who had the privilege to have other people sort out their problems for way too long. It's impossible to not grow mentally stronger when you have to stand alone and take responsibility for where you are in life. #orangebook #MentalStrength #Responsibility #PersonalGrowth

If your spouse is rational and mentally stable, you actually already won the lottery. #orangebook #Spouse #Relationships #MentalHealth

Getting regularly involved in foolish arguments and energy-wasting drama usually means that you have too much free time. Most people’s problems are in their mind, and they disappear once they are finally focused on goals that actually matter. #orangebook #Arguments #Mindset #Goals

Everyone talks about how they have less free time once they have kids, no one talks about how you also learn how to be much more focused and more efficient with your time. #orangebook #Parenting #TimeManagement #Efficiency

Being able to spend a lot of time with your kids, teach them, play with them, watch them grow up, is an underrated sign of wealth. #orangebook #FamilyTime #Parenting #Wealth

The more options you have, the more courage you need, to make choices and finally move forward. #orangebook #Options #Courage #Choices

Your mind will feel annoyed by the smallest inconveniences as long as you aren't focused on ambitious enough goals. #orangebook #Mindset #Goals #Focus

There is no such thing as being "too ambitious." It's really clear to anyone who had any past success in any field that you either go way beyond your initial expectations, or you fail completely, there is rarely any in between. We live in a society that rewards people who are already winning, and where "the best" takes it all, and where the "merely excellent" is effectively "invisible." Most people who ended up with "average" lives actually worked really hard; and people who aimed for an "average life" right from the beginning actually often ended up with way more sufferings than they wanted; and the people with "extraordinary" lives actually often took "crazy" or unconventional risks to get there, or they were very disciplined for very long periods of time. People who managed to "escape the competition" didn't get there with average standards and with "work-life balance" in mind; they were, ironically, actually often extremely competitive. #orangebook #Ambition #Success #RiskTaking