Thread (dads, bookmark this and read it every day): Mistake 1: Trying to fix everything You'll want to solve all your child's problems. But part of growing up is learning how to navigate challenges. Instead of rushing in, ask guiding questions to help them find their own solutions. Mistake 2: Neglecting yourself You can't pour from an empty cup. There's nothing selfish about putting your own well-being first. If you want to be the best dad you can be, you need to be at your best. Period. Mistake 3: Never being "fun" Often, we take ourselves way too seriously. Some of your kids' best memories will come from having FUN with you. Be high energy. Be positive. And be a little weird. Your kids will thank you. Mistake 4: Undermining your spouse You and your wife must be in lockstep. You are a united front. Your kids need consistency. Show them what that looks like and never undermine your wife in front of them. Mistake 5: Overworking Your job isn't going anywhere. Your boss isn't going anywhere. Even if they do, you can find others. But one day your kids WILL ask you to play for the last time. Prioritize accordingly. Mistake 6: Hiding emotions I am NOT saying be an emotional loose cannon. If you're led by your emotions, you can't lead others. But by speaking calmly about your emotions with your kids, you're modeling mastery. Mistake 7: Comparing your kids to others Your kids are unique. Every child develops at their own pace. Nurture their self-esteem by avoiding comparisons. Every child has something special about them. Find those special things and fan the flames. Mistake 8: Discounting their emotions Validate their emotions. I'm not saying you have to endure endless tantrums. Instead, validate the emotion, and encourage calm discussion ABOUT the emotion. Deep breaths. Let them explore how and why they feel like they do. Mistake 9: Forgetting to praise So many of us get this wrong. Be lavish with your praise. Especially when you're praising traits you'd like to see more of in your kids. You always reap what you sow. Mistake 10: Setting unrealistic expectations You should have high hopes for your kids. But children are small. Under too much pressure, they break. Instead, be with them through ups and downs, and always look for the learning opportunity in successes and failures. Mistake 11: Assuming they know we love them "I love you." "I'm proud of you." These are words we should say often. Show them AND tell them. Leaving this unsaid leaves too much to interpretation. And interpretation can lead to doubt. Mistake 12: Being inconsistent with rules Consistency is key when it comes to discipline. Changing rules arbitrarily only leads to confusion. Not to mention it undermines your authority. Children can smell incompetence a mile away. Mistake 13: Failure to apologize You will make some big mistakes. And like it or not, those mistakes will often form core memories for your kids. Don't neglect the opportunity to bolster those memories by modeling how a man takes responsibility for his actions. Mistake 14: Not giving independence Kids need opportunities to become self-reliant. Otherwise, how will they ever learn? Give them real responsibilities. They can handle it. Let them fail. Then be there to pick them back up. Mistake 15: Ignoring their interests Do they like pokemon? Do they like princess dolls? Do you think these things are stupid? I don't care. Your job is now to like these things too. Take an interest in what they're interested in. This is how memories and bonds are made. Mistake 16: Never explaining why If your kids are like mine, their favorite word will be "why." So freaking tell them. "Because I said so," isn't a reason. Bonus points, when they ask why, ask "why do you think?" Then encourage them to answer thoughtfully. Critical thinking FTW Mistake 17: Missing the small moments Your best memories with your kids won't be the elaborate trips, or the expensive birthday parties. They'll be the small moments. The in-between moments. Don't be so distracted you miss them. Mistake 18: Being a friend, not a parent Yes it's important that your kids like you (I know ... controversial), but you always need to be a parent first. You are their safe harbor. You are their bumper lanes. You are their lighthouse. You aren't their bff. Mistake 19: Taking over tasks Just because you can do something "faster," doesn't mean you should take over. Kids learn by doing (we all do). Be patient. Patience is your most valuable resource as a dad. Let them complete tasks on their own. Mistake 20: Neglecting your relationship with your wife This is the most important item on the list. Without this, nothing else matters. Your marriage is the foundation. It represents the root of your family tree. Everything that grows from it depends on its health. Invest just as heavily in your relationship as you do in yourself and in your kids. Kids learn what love is from their parents. Model what it looks like. Through thick and thin.

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A woman's past is important. Who she was in the past is an indication of who she will be in the future. Most women never change their habits. Ignore her past at your own peril.

"Fathering is not something perfect men do, but something that perfects the man." - Frank Pittman

I turned 43 today... If you're in your 20s, read this: Forgive your parents Understand that your parents are only human. And we all make mistakes. Forgive past trauma with your parents and take full responsibility for your future actions. Stop chasing titles The internet taught me one thing - qualifications don't matter. This is because, on a worldwide stage, people with real skills are ultimately rewarded. At 25, I was 55K in debt At 30, I paid my loans off At 32, I got married At 34, I started a side hustle At 35, I started to invest At 39, I became a millionaire At 43, I run my own business Actively improve yourself every day and you will be miles ahead of your peers Stop watching TV 99% of what you see on TV is engineered around negativity. News keeps you in a state of fear. Advertisements are used to manipulate you because fear makes great consumers. It's better to avoid the cycle. Be the 1st to congratulate friends Adopt the mindset of when they win you win. Never be jealous. Their success will strengthen you. Find your purpose Sit down and define your life. To do this, ask yourself this simple question: “Who do you want to become?” Then take the actions to become it. Ignore the haters in life Winning means dealing with some people who want to bring you down. Always remember that the loudest boos come from the cheapest seats. Saying NO is a superpower When you say yes to everything, you live life on other people's terms. Stop letting others dictate your life. Learn how to say no. Your life is your priority. Create something new every day Creativity is the pathway to authenticity. The more you create, the more you discover who you truly are. Building makes you better because creating is where you achieve mastery.

In your opinion, what’s the biggest threat to men’s health today?

Integrity gets more valuable the higher up you climb No one cares if a nobody in his mom's basement lives with "integrity" He hasn't been tested, he hasn't been tempted But at the top, temptation ratchets up 1000x The more you have to lose, the more people watching you... Even tiny slip ups can be devastating.

Many many such cases. What’s the most valuable thing you learned from a YouTube video?

Live life with your grandchildren in mind

Men between the ages of 18-24: These are the toughest years of your life It’s when your social value is at its absolute lowest, and life repeatedly punches you in the mouth to test what you’re made of How you emerge from this period will shape you forever, for better or worse.

Sulla was Rome's deadliest general. He almost had young Julius Caesar executed. But thousands loved Sulla, too. 9 keys to Sulla's effectiveness, that can make you just as deadly:

Cicero writing about Julius Caesar: "In that man were combined genius, method, memory, literature, prudence, deliberation, and industry. He had performed exploits in war which, though calamitous for the republic, were nevertheless mighty deeds. Having for many years aimed at being a king, he had with great labor, and much personal danger, accomplished what he intended." - Cicero, 2nd Philippics, 116 Cicero wrote this praise of Caesar's abilities in the Second Philippics, a speech condemning Mark Antony. Cicero extolls Caesar's numerous qualities and abilities to make Mark Antony look incapable and untalented in comparison. This is clear in the next passage: "With him I can, indeed, compare you as to your desire to reign; but in all other respects you are in no degree to be compared to him." - Cicero, 2nd Philippics, 117 Nevertheless, Cicero did believe what he wrote there about Caesar considering that he also praised the very high quality of Caesar's oratory and his commentaries on the Gallic Wars in some of his other writings. Cicero disapproved of Caesar's politics and of what Caesar had done to the Republic. Hence, his recognition of Caesar's talents in many areas shows how well rounded and multitalented Caesar was. Cicero wrote the following regarding Caesar's Commentaries on the Gallic Wars and the Civil War: “But while he pretended only to furnish the loose materials, for such as might be inclined to compose a regular history, he may, perhaps, have gratified the vanity of a few literary embroiderers; but he has certainly prevented all sensible men from attempting any improvement on his plan. For in history, nothing is more pleasing than a correct and elegant brevity of expression.” This was in a letter to Brutus. Cicero praised Caesar as Rome's greatest orator after himself (very humble of Cicero of course...) "But, however," said [Atticus], (addressing himself to Brutus) "I really think of Caesar, and every body else says the same of this accurate connoisseur in the Art of Speaking, that he has the purest and the most elegant command of the Roman language of all the Orators that have yet appeared: and that not merely by domestic habit, as we have lately heard it observed of the families of the Laelii and the Mucii, (though even here, I believe, this might partly have been the case) but he chiefly acquired and brought it to its present perfection, by a studious application to the most intricate and refined branches of literature, and by a careful and constant attention to the purity of his style. But that he, who, involved as he was in a perpetual hurry of business, could dedicate to you, my Cicero, a laboured Treatise on the Art of Speaking correctly, that he, who, in the first book of it, laid it down as an axiom, that an accurate choice of words is the foundation of Eloquence; and who has bestowed," said he, (addressing himself again to Brutus) "the highest encomiums on this friend of ours, who yet chooses to leave Caesar's character to me;—that he should be a perfect master of the language of polite conservation, is a circumstance which is almost too obvious to be mentioned." This is from Cicero's Brutus/De claris oratoribus This work is written in the form of a dialogue between Atticus, Brutus and Cicero about the skill of oratory and its history. After this passage Cicero praises himself as the greatest orator, but he does speak very highly indeed of Caesar's speaking skills. This passage mentions a text called the Art of Speaking. It is said to have been written by Caesar and dedicated to Cicero. It has unfortunately been lost.

According to the great historian von Ranke, All historical periods stand equal in the judgment of God. Can any society - as a whole - claim to be morally superior than another?

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