You’re Not Missing Out…
I think we live in a world full of people who are so afraid to miss out on something else that they completely miss out on where they actually are. FOMO is a real problem. Everywhere I look, I see people overcommitting themselves and obsessing over a perceived notion that they’re somehow missing out on life if they don’t go to a specific place or attend a certain social function, or can’t present themselves the way their peers can, or they aren’t at the place they hoped to be in life yet. They compare themselves and circumstance against the world around them and drink the poison their minds pour into them. My brother and I were recently discussing this phenomenon, and he shared what he’d observed among peers. We talked about how it seems like so many people are dissatisfied with where they are because they’re chasing after some experience they see others doing online and in their social groups.
Then he shook his head and said, “The carrot is a hologram.” Holy cow. He was right. It looks so real, doesn’t it? The promise that if you just move to that hip big city in your twenties, or get that job you’ve been working toward, or have this kind of house, or can afford this lifestyle, or take that cool photo to post on Instagram and prove you’re relevant, you’ll be satisfied.
The second you grab that carrot dangling in front of you, make that move, get that job, hit that milestone of perception, or post the cool photo, there’s no lasting satisfaction. You immediately move on to the next thing you think you’re missing out on. And it never stops. The carrot is a false promise of fulfillment. It’s nothing more than a hologram. Are you still believing that your dreams come true will be the only thing that fills you up or that figuring out your next step will reveal your hidden purpose?
It’s one thing to set goals and be diligent and intentional as we work toward them in the here and now. However, we have to keep ourselves in check because living with a fear of what we’re missing out on rather than focusing on what we’re currently standing on top of is toxic to our joy, our confidence, and the impact we can have right where we are.
Know what else that kind of thinking does? It sets us up to get stuck in disappointment instead of stepping forward in important directions.
When I look back at the challenging yet refining years in my 20’s, I’m thankful I didn’t get everything I wanted. I also realize I didn’t miss out on anything I wasn’t meant to have in the first place. Had my plans gone how I initially hoped, I likely wouldn’t have moved to SC, or WI and been able to spend what ended up being the the most impactful years of my life this far in unmasking and discovering myself beyond my fears for the first time in my life. Sure, it didn’t look glamorous, but guess what? Sometimes the glamorous things we go after are the most unimportant. On the flip side, sometimes the most unglamorous things we do are the most important.
On that same note, if I didn’t decide to move, I might not be writing this right now. It’s probably not something I would have thought to pursue. If I hadn’t been disappointed in the season prior to noving, I wouldn’t have discovered all the dreams I didn’t even realize I had for this season.
Perhaps even more important, I might not have learned on such a personal level what it looks like to embrace the power of impact in unseen spaces and ordinary places. It’s easy to embrace impact that is seen and applauded on big stages, but maybe the goodness is truly in the ordinary everyday.
Now whenever I catch myself feeling the pressure to do what looks impressive or am caught up in the lie that I’m somehow missing out on something, I have to center myself, check my heart, and honestly answer this question: Am I overlooking something right under my nose because I’m so preoccupied with the notion that I’m missing out?
I dare you to do the same.
Maybe you haven’t missed out on what really matters at all. Maybe that thing you thought you wanted is not a broken dream but a step toward a much bigger one.
Don’t overlook what’s in front of you because you’re so fixated on what’s behind you. I’m serious. There is no room for FOMO because the fear of missing out is just a perception, not a reality. If your plans didn’t work out, there is a reason. You’ve just got to keep your eyes open wide enough to see that something new is being worked out in your life.
So if you feel as if you really messed up or missed out on your one big opportunity, please reevaluate. Get your eyes off what didn’t go right and refocus for five seconds. Don’t overlook the purpose and opportunity right in front of you. Get back to what really matters, not what you think you missed out on.
Because, honestly, what does a gal really gain when she gets the whole world but loses her soul? 🤍🙏
#nostr #puravida #mindset #wisdom
