Riddle me this.... If I want to run an archival relay to backup my nostr events, I'd have to add that relay URL to my client app, but then... everyone could see that relay in my profile. What's to stop someone from adding that relay (that's intended to be just for me and my events) to their malicious client and ddosing it into oblivion? How can I have a truly private relay where only my clients have write permission? And ideally no-one can find my relays URL?

Two error messages trying to zap via #Amethyst I comprehend one of them.

Help me cull my relays. Pretty sure 53 is too many. 😂 But which ones to axe? 🤷‍♂️ How in Amethyst can I see which ones I can safely remove? When I first started nostring I added a bunch of relays that accounts I followed were subscribed to. I thought that was how I was supposed to "fix broken threads" where someone was replying to an event I couldn't view. Is there some Nostr network probing tool that will look at my following list, see what relays host their content and has good performance based on my current location (which changes frequently)? A Nostr relay optimizer? A nostrimizer if you will?