It's time to re-Build. I am asking you to help me do that, if it is a YES for you. It has been a growing awareness inside me for months. It's time to Build. With the devastation not only in Asheville (my family's home) but in other places in the world, too, it's time to re-Build as well. Do I know exactly what that looks like? No. Because it is meant to be Sourced from those who want to contribute from their own heartistry. We of the Freedom Kin are positioned — through the healing we've done, the real skills we're learning, and the values we share — to co-create what is essential for Thriving... Now and Onwards. So I have two Ask's right now: (1) Share with me to help guide me energy: What are you yearning to build and grow that will cultivate heart-centered thriving for yourself and others? Answer that here, if you would:

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(2) As we move forward, your engagement and reflections are immensely helpful! (One circle member the other day sent me an email quoting just one line I'd shared with a simple note: "This is meaning a lot to me this week." So helpful to me!) Whether replying by email or in the community center or social media, the rare specific feedback I get helps steer the energy for all of us. Engagers matter! It's one of the aspects of thriving I want to build and re-build. Maybe neither of these will be what you do. If you are in the midst of focused Healing, yes, we continue to have resources for that essential part of Life. I just KNOW, in my heart and soul, that the Builders Matter in the segment of human evolution to come. Amidst dysfunctions, can we bring emotional savvy and hearty optimism? Yes. Yes, We Can. To do that, well, support is essential. I see that in the crisis recovery in Asheville. I know it's profoundly true in trauma recovery — we're meant to heal and grow resilience in connection with other safe, Present, and regulated hearts. For building, we will hit challenges we will need to Rise into. Together that's easier. New technologies are becoming available. We can apply emotional technology like EFT Tapping to restore calm confidence — always essential when building. And there's another aspect I've noticed: when we are building together, sharing space with someone else who is feeling for their YES helps us to know our own YES... is such a beautiful experience. It happens over and over again in our circle sessions. Does this appeal to you? How so? Do you have questions? Please ask. And if you are ready to do some building and re-building together, you are encouraged to share that here:

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MOVE! Zoom! Who cares about speed limits, double yellow lines, safety, and longevity! He was racing the clock… battling for position those who were not even racing. So yes, I felt quite smug about 5 minutes later when I pulled up behind him as he sat behind a delivery truck at a stop light — him fuming and revving, me all calm and confident. Bwaahahaha. The tortoise is wise! Lives a LOT longer, too. A hare in the wild lives maybe 3 years. A tortoise 80 to 255 years. Woah. Yet how many of us feel rushed by clock pressure? How many of us speed up to be “on time” when recognizing that spaciousness would allow a very different kind of journey? It’s not even a race. Well, unless you’re a rat — in the rat race. For us Freedom Kin, “racing” feels like pressure, tension, strain, and Never Enoughness. It’s a signal — like the red check engine light, redline in the car, stoplight… and unexpected medical diagnosis. Slow down. Unrush yourself. Our culture is so whacked that “unrush” is not even considered a word. RUSH is, though. Let’s shift that. When we shift from rushing to Being Unrushed, our body changes. Our nervous system has more capacity. Our cells and systems have space to heal and strengthen (which they do not if we’re doing the biomedical equivalent of yelling FIRE FIRE FIRE all the time). Unrushed, we actually go where we want to go… faster. But I don’t mean faster at racing place and place, checking off to-do items. I mean being clear and present while doing work that matters deeply to us, building what will endure for our long and well-savored thriving life. Join us TODAY go deep into this skill together. We’re delighted to explore this with you! Everyone who registers will get emailed the recording.

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Slow Down to Go Fast

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𝗦𝗹𝗼𝘄 𝗗𝗼𝘄𝗻 𝘁𝗼 𝗚𝗼 𝗙𝗮𝘀𝘁 Rushed? Try Unrushed. Do Work That Matters without urgency or pressure. Of course we can have passion! Excitement even! A drive to make a difference and be of profound service. As soon as we’re feeling like it is Urgent… the have-to’s kick in. The should have’s haunt us at the end of the day. For us Freedom Kin, when we feel forced we stop. Distraction takes us away from THAT. We might become aware we’re “procrastinating” and yet unclear how impactful the pressure is at disconnecting us from our heart’s energy and power. Slowing down feels… counterintuitive. When we’ve been told we’re “too slow” or “need to accomplish more More MOAR!” — aren’t we going against the dominant culture if we slow down?!? We ARE! Excellent! Because the work that flows from taking inspired, unrushed actions… move us with emotional intelligence and savvy skill towards building our thriving life (and sharing it with those we hold dear). And we move faster, too. Join us to go deep into this skill together. We’re excited to explore this with you!

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Slow Down to Go Fast

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Reframe to Thrive - Building Emotional Agility for Life-Changing Work

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Reframe to Thrive - Building Emotional Agility for Life-Changing Work

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We covered… Embrace reframes as a powerful tool for emotional agility. Notice how shifting your perspective can create more lightness and range of motion in your life. Recognize that your current frames may be survival-based. Gently explore new frames that support your thriving and align with your deepest intentions. Practice using the Discernment Frame rather than the Harsh Judgment Frame. This shift can open up new possibilities and help you navigate challenges with more grace. Explore the frame of “human being” rather than “human doing”. How might this perspective nourish your soul and enhance your relationships? When facing criticism or self-doubt, ask yourself: “How can I be Useful here and now?” This reframe invites you to recognize your unique gifts and contributions and how they can be activated NOW. Explore viewing your life and work through an Ecosystem lens. How does this frame help you see the interconnectedness of your efforts and their ripple effects? Cultivate emotional agility by consciously switching frames. Notice when a current frame isn’t serving you, and experiment with alternative frames that energize you. Use tapping to support your reframing process. This physical act can help your body and mind integrate new perspectives more easily. Parenting and relationships grow and deepen with frames of Curiosity, Kindness, Generosity, and Appreciation… even when addressing challenges. How might this shift your interactions? Practice seeing situations from multiple perspectives — Re-Perceive! This “emotional cross-training” builds your agility and resilience in facing life’s complexities. Celebrate small shifts in perspective. Each reframe is an opportunity for growth and a step towards the thriving, purposeful life you’re building. Remember, Dear Builder, these reframes are invitations to explore, not pressure to change overnight. As you listen to the workshop, notice which aspects resonate most deeply with your heart. Allow yourself to play with new perspectives, knowing that each small shift can lead to profound transformations in your life and work. You’re already on this journey of growth – let these reframes be gentle companions as you continue to build and thrive.

I was framed! So were you. We all were. Were you also looked at through the Frame of COMPARISON? Compared to siblings, other students, other players? Whether you compared favorably or poorly, comparison is... stressful. Seriously dis-ease provoking. Was family life seen through the Frame of Struggle and Scarcity? Or the Frames of Gratitude and Abundance? Our Inner Life Interpreter requires frames of reference. They help us make sense of the world. They act as filters... and they also act as limits. If we evaluate our lives based on the Frame of Success and Failure, then we won't even see all the ways life can be Re-Framed as an Adventure, an Exploration, a Mystical Journey of Discovery of Our Gifts. See what I mean? Rather than having our life "framed" for us, Reframing frees us to choose the frames that serve us. Oh, and that "It's Either Right or Wrong Frame" — yeah, that is one of those 79 cent black and white plastic ones from the Dollar Store. Not useful for Thriving. Cathy and I will be exploring reframes that better serve our emotional well-being tomorrow (Tuesday). Reframing is a skill. We'll be looking at frames so many of us have and how when we perceive (and re-perceive) our life through more flattering (and useful!) frames, we GET energy rather than lose it. Consider joining us. Everyone gets the recording who signs up.

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Reframe to Thrive - Building Emotional Agility for Life-Changing Work

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𝗘𝗺𝗼𝘁𝗶𝗼𝗻𝗮𝗹 𝗔𝗴𝗶𝗹𝗶𝘁𝘆 𝗶𝘀 𝗲𝘀𝘀𝗲𝗻𝘁𝗶𝗮𝗹 𝗳𝗼𝗿 𝗹𝗶𝗳𝗲-𝗰𝗵𝗮𝗻𝗴𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝘄𝗼𝗿𝗸. But our primitive brain is rigid. It sees narrowly. It insists. It blocks and stops and criticizes. Reframing builds emotional agility.

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Reframe to Thrive - Building Emotional Agility for Life-Changing Work

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Boundaries ARE a co-creation that is sourced from our clarity, strengthened through confidence that what matters to us MATTERS and is not "subservient" to others. Cathy and I so appreciate those who brought their clarity, questions, and wisdom to the workshop. We touched on potent areas that support building a thriving life for ourselves and WITH those who are compatible with an attitude of, "Absolutely, I want to survive, AND there is so much more to life!" 𝗕𝗼𝘂𝗻𝗱𝗮𝗿𝗶𝗲𝘀 𝗶𝗻 𝗠𝗼𝘁𝗶𝗼𝗻 - 𝗚𝗿𝗮𝗰𝗲𝗳𝘂𝗹 𝗘𝘅𝗶𝘁𝘀 𝗮𝗻𝗱 𝗦𝗮𝘃𝘃𝘆 𝗖𝗼𝗺𝗺𝘂𝗻𝗶𝗰𝗮𝘁𝗶𝗼𝗻 Before reviewing this session: 1. What does "graceful exit" mean to me in the context of relationships or commitments? 2. Can I recall a time when I successfully adjusted a boundary or exited a situation or commitment? How did it feel? 3. What fears come up when I think about exiting a situation or relationship? 𝗪𝗵𝗮𝘁 𝗪𝗲 𝗖𝗼𝘃𝗲𝗿𝗲𝗱: Boundaries aren’t just about protection; they’re fluid and honor both your guidance and others’. Imagine them as a dance that allows you to thrive and be in your heartistry. Graceful exits aren’t about rejection. They’re about aligning with your current energy and needs. Next time you need to bow out, try saying, “Can we take a rain check? I’m feeling like I need some quiet time right now.” Start small! Practice setting boundaries with safe people first. You don’t have to confront your scariest relationships right away. Build that muscle gradually. Tune your sensors inward. Before you can communicate your needs, you need to know what they are. Take time to check in with yourself regularly. Hinting and hoping isn’t savvy communication. Instead, try stating your request directly but kindly. For example: “I’m noticing I’m feeling chaotic with this conversation. Could we be quiet for a few minutes so I can regulate myself?” Obligation often comes with rigid expectations. Try reframing it as devotion, which allows for more flexibility and love. It’s not “I’m obligated to change this diaper,” but “I’m devoted to my child’s well-being.” When setting new boundaries, give people a heads-up. Try saying, “I want to deepen our relationship, so I’ll be speaking up about my needs more. I’d love your support in this.” Remember: You’re not responsible for managing others’ emotions about your boundaries. It’s okay to comfort them if it’s a yes for you, but their feelings are ultimately their responsibility. Freeing up energy sometimes means gracefully exiting situations or relationships that no longer serve you. It’s okay to recalibrate and put your energy where it matters most to you. Boundaries for thriving are in motion – they can shift over time as you grow and change. Allow yourself the freedom to adjust your dance as needed. If you can’t say no in the moment, it’s okay to make an excuse and address it later. The most important thing is tuning into yourself and practicing in ways that feel safe.

Do you find it hard to leave? Yeah, me too. Yet, if we keep every activity and every person "within our life" we end up with no space and freedom. Which means... if you want to build more thriving it is essential to make more space. I left an executive technology role to become a coach. But before the graceful exit, I had to set uncomfortable boundaries to leave time for me to explore and develop my skills. And some friendships changed during that time, too. Activities stopped for new ones to start. Things I owned that were once precious required a fresh look — many moved on. But if you're the type of person who is more builder than destroyer, exits require skill. How do you communicate when you know the other person(s) won't be happy? Cathy and I know there is no "easy" answer. There can be ways that are more kind and respectful. There are definitely ways that protect what matters to you and give you energy and space to invest in building a more thriving life. Would this be useful for you? If so, please join us (or sign up to get the recording). And YES! You can exit at any time.

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Boundaries in Motion - Graceful Exits and Savvy Communication

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Sunday: 𝗕𝗼𝘂𝗻𝗱𝗮𝗿𝗶𝗲𝘀 𝗶𝗻 𝗠𝗼𝘁𝗶𝗼𝗻 - 𝗚𝗿𝗮𝗰𝗲𝗳𝘂𝗹 𝗘𝘅𝗶𝘁𝘀 𝗮𝗻𝗱 𝗦𝗮𝘃𝘃𝘆 𝗖𝗼𝗺𝗺𝘂𝗻𝗶𝗰𝗮𝘁𝗶𝗼𝗻

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Boundaries in Motion - Graceful Exits and Savvy Communication

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Perfectly Imperfect: Thriving Through Authentic Action We covered... * Perfectionism is a healthy aspiration that's been kicked in the ass. Recognize when you're pushing yourself too hard and recalibrate to your true aspirations. * Embrace being a student-teacher. It's okay not to know everything – in fact, it's liberating! Say "I don't know this yet" and enjoy the learning process. * Authentic action feels like you, even if it's awkward. It's about being congruent with your values and moving towards your aspirations. * Notice where perfectionism traps you. Is it in social situations? At work? Identifying these areas is the first step to freeing yourself. * Tapping (EFT) can help you navigate perfectionist tendencies. Use it to calm your nervous system and access your embodied wisdom. * Aspire, don't require. Instead of demanding perfection, ask yourself what you're truly aspiring to in any given situation. * Practice being "perfectly imperfect." It's not about letting go of all standards, but embracing your humanity and allowing room for growth. * Cultivate emotional freedom by choosing your responses. You can't control everything, but you can choose how you react and what you focus on. * Remember, you're not alone in this. We're all aspiring imperfectionists, learning to thrive through authentic action. By exploring these concepts, you'll start to loosen the grip of perfectionism and free up energy for what truly matters to you. It's not about being flawless – it's about being authentically you. So go ahead, give yourself permission to be perfectly imperfect. Your thriving life awaits!

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Perfectly Imperfect: Thriving Through Authentic Action

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On the grading scale inflicted on me, B+ meant you were close... but failed. Not failed like an F. But failed as in not meeting expectations for "knowing" and "performing" or even "competence." Ugh, WTF. Why do we train in such a way?!? Because it's training not learning, growing, expressing, and thriving. Perfectly Imperfect says to me that my perceptions — and even my misperceptions — have usefulness. My actions that lead to a "dead end" give me information. Wisdom gathered the Hard Way that is shared with others often helps us all gain Wisdom that doesn't require nearly as much pain. So can I be satisfied with a B+ ??? No, I cannot. Because I cannot be happy on some arbitrary and judgmental scale like that. What I can is offer my Be+ Be-ing my authentic self. Be+ to me is being who I am, what I know about myself and what matters to me, what I am curious about, what I am co-creating... and ADDING that into the We-Space. Adding Me to We. The helps us build a thriving life for ourselves and with others. It takes skill. It takes getting beyond our "training" into our freedom and heartistry. Imperfectly. Which is just... perfect. Want to explore this with us? We're getting together tomorrow! Consider joining us. Everyone gets the recording who signs up.

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Perfectly Imperfect: Thriving Through Authentic Action

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𝗣𝗿𝗮𝗰𝘁𝗶𝗰𝗮𝗹 𝗖𝗼𝗻𝗰𝗲𝗽𝘁𝘀 𝗳𝗼𝗿 𝗘𝗺𝗼𝘁𝗶𝗼𝗻𝗮𝗹 𝗧𝗵𝗿𝗶𝘃𝗶𝗻𝗴 Had such a vibrant time with Gene exploring a few of the Useful Concepts for Thriving. Key insights 🧠 EFT can serve as an emotional technology to help us become aware of and upgrade the survival framework that limits us. 🧠 The concept of "𝗿𝗶𝗴𝗵𝘁 𝗱𝗶𝘀𝘁𝗮𝗻𝗰𝗲 𝗮𝗻𝗱 𝗿𝗶𝗴𝗵𝘁 𝗱𝗲𝗽𝘁𝗵" in relationships is ever-changing and dependent on context, not just past history. 🌱 Embracing 𝗶𝗺𝗽𝗲𝗿𝗳𝗲𝗰𝘁𝗶𝗼𝗻𝗶𝘀𝗺 can set us free from striving for a delusion of perfection and allow for improvement in any situation. 🌍 𝗦𝘁𝗲𝘄𝗮𝗿𝗱𝘀𝗵𝗶𝗽 emphasizes serving oneself, family, and community, shifting the focus from individual success to collective well-being.

Have you noticed how our relentless pursuit of perfection often becomes a trap, painfully holding us back from fully expressing our authentic selves and experiencing life’s richness? Consider joining us Tuesday...

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Perfectly Imperfect: Thriving Through Authentic Action

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Now & Onwards - Releasing the Old, Embracing the New Real Skills Workshop

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Now & Onwards: Releasing the Old, Embracing the New

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We covered… Recognizing stale patterns: Learn to identify when past traumas or experiences have become “stale” in your life. This awareness is a useful step towards releasing old, unhelpful patterns. Embracing the NOW: Discover techniques to ground yourself in the “now” rather than being pulled into past traumas or future anxieties. Activation energy for change: Understand the concept of “activation energy” needed to make positive changes in your life. This insight helps you overcome inertia and move onwards with what matters to you. Reframing “have to” into choice: Learn to transform feelings of obligation into opportunities for empowered decision-making. Honoring your unique rhythm: Explore ways to respect your individual energy cycles and needs, as an antidote to comparing yourself to others. Pattern interrupts: Discover actionable techniques like the “aardvark” safe word to interrupt negative thought patterns and manage overwhelming emotions in daily life. Cultivating self-compassion: Learn to approach your emotions and experiences with kindness rather than judgment. Embracing vulnerability: Understand the power of allowing yourself to be vulnerable and authentic in relationships. Balancing acceptance and change: Learn to navigate the delicate balance between accepting yourself as you are and striving for positive change. Somatic awareness: Develop skills to tune into your body’s physical sensations as a way to process emotions and release trapped energy. This body-mind connection is a powerful tool for healing. Creating new, empowering energy directives: Learn to craft fresh, supportive stories about yourself and your experiences. This reframing can transform your relationship with your past and open new possibilities onwards into your thriving life.

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I bought this book 25 years ago. I never read it. Just the TITLE was enough. Punished by Rewards I’ve come a long way in letting go of the need for a gold star or yummy treat or more More MORE MONEY as a reward for putting in effort. Still… “They” (meaning everyone) conditioned my animal brain to seek reward… and if the reward wouldn’t come… and I wasn’t going to alternatively be punished… then WHY bother? This limiting belief still gets activated in me (often by default). It takes awareness and energy to shift out of this mode. Is it happening again? Am I in the: “but why bother if I’m not going to be rewarded (or punished) in a big-enough way?” If I am in that mode, it’s essential to my thriving to shift out of it. I do that by tuning into whether it actually MATTERS to me. How does it express who I am, who and what is precious to me? If it does not, then yeah, I am not going to bother. If it DOES matter, then at minimum I will be nourished by putting my life energy into what matters to me (regardless of reward). It will feel different from the gold star, or “good boy!”, or yummy dessert. It will feel… Meaning-FULL. Full of meaning. Ful-FILL-ing. Filling me towards fullness. That sensation is palpable. It just happens to be quieter, more subtle, than a dopamine rush (or crash). I’m getting to a place where “reward seeking” has a similar tone to shoulding on myself. Neither activates my heartistry anymore. Adapting to that is weird. But it is not classical procrastination. It is not classical avoidance. It’s compatible with making money but not the “driver” of it. Exploring this feels like a core aspect to thriving. Who will we be, as humans, if – for example – we don’t “have to” work for the A+ or the paycheck. Who CAN we be if our energy is directed through freedom and doing work that matters WITH Source rather than for “rewards” of the survival kind? Hmmmm… Mmmmm.

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Punished by Rewards

https://amzn.to/4cxWAxq I bought this book 25 years ago. I never read it. Just the TITLE was enough. Punished by Rewards I’ve come a long way ...

𝗘𝗺𝗽𝗮𝘁𝗵 𝗪𝗮𝘆𝘀 I realized at one point that I had a gift that has significant challenges to it… and no one around me knew how to teach me to use it in rewarding ways. Empathy. Being an empath has profound rewards – if and only if we either are raised in a natural environment where empathy thrives (and who amongst us had THAT growing up?!?) or… we develop the skills and wisdom later in life. On today’s morning mile, I pondered with my spirit buddy what a core skill is for an empath. Here’s a synopsis of what we explored: Empath = emotional path. Emotion = energy in motion Empaths are gifted at having PATHWAYS for Energy in Motion. Someone has big feelings? (Energy in them in motion)… we’ll have pathways to us and through us for that energy. The skill is to develop energy skill and conscious pathways. If someone is a people pleaser without energy skill, any “ask” can end up running rough trod over the empath. We can even feel “stepped on” like a “door mat” – right? Empathways (“The Empath Ways”) offers us insight that we offer pathways for energy for those we are connected to. Where is the energy to flow and go? Is it something for us to consume and transform (like we do with food and water)? Or is it, at least at times, a pathway for the energy towards recalibration, spiritual connection, deeper wisdom, and re-established balance? A challenge I am rising into relates towards being clearer about the energy pathways I’m offering when others are distressed. There IS a pathway in me from frustration and disappointment to acceptance and adapting. (And yeah, also one from frustration to yelling-in-frustration. Empaths have many paths in them.) Choosing feels… right to me. It rises to the challenge of the energies present. How shall we move with it, not in coerced fashion but in invitation. Going onwards from where I am now, I am exploring “less mirroring, more embodying other empath-ways.” Will be interesting!

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Empath Ways

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I have a “depleting belief.” It’s depleting because when it triggers, my life forces starts depleting. The belief is not in my head. Or, at least not JUST in my head. I know better. Still… such is the nature of limiting beliefs. We know better, and yet the dynamic still exists within us and impacts our living (and thriving). For me, it is a reaction to a challenge. Somehow, a “challenge” means I am unprepared (like being unprepared for a test). A challenge means I failed to do (or not do) “something” (not even God knows what!) to avoid it being a challenge! Silly, eh? And so normal. I was trained from a child that challenges meant I was less than the A+ student, less than the competent Good and Prepared Person that I value being. (shaking my head) Yet, challenges are a part of EVERYONE’s LIFE! Those I know who are thriving – have challenges they engage with every day. There’s an aliveness in challenges. Crafting a thriving life is challenging. Strengthening a changing and aging body is challenging. Being of hearty and aligned service with and for others is challenging. Lovership is challenging. Finding lovership is challenging. Finding kinship is challenging. Maintaining and deepening kinship is challenging. Because if there is no challenge in it, is it not… Mundane. Uninspiring. Trivial. Demotivating. Deadening even… This is where my work is this week. I am seeking to take the old “reaction” around challenges being a negative indicator (even a punishment) and recast them now and onwards as being full of reward! It’s so rewarding to RISE into these hearty challenges. I am going to tap into my strengths, activate my curiosity, and strengthen aspects of myself as I go onwards. Notice how I am integrating “rewarding” into this fresh energy pattern. As an animal I have a reward system (you do, too). It’s practical to include that activation energy into recasting a belief from depleting… to enlivening. Into one that brings flow TO us, full-filling us. Curious if any of y’all have a bit of this, too? Want to explore it together?

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Rising into Our Challenges

I have a “depleting belief.” It’s depleting because when it triggers, my life forces starts depleting. The belief is not in my head. Or, at ...

What is a mental or physical behavior that feels “old” to you… and what is the fresh new one you intend to embrace and vitalize for your thriving now… and onwards?

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Now & Onwards: Releasing the Old, Embracing the New

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24 Hours of Tapping

Friday 3pm EDT starts 24 hours of free tapping sessions streamed on YouTube. There will be so much goodness! Tapping for Clutter Tapping for Self-Acceptance Unlock Your Abundance The Transformative Potential of Growing Your Business Tapping in Response to the War in Ukraine Tapping for Difficult and High-Risk Births What if Healing is Largely Misunderstood? Making Tapping Accessible to All How Childhood Trauma Impacts Us As Adults Tap Into Your Vibrant Health Bringing Tapping to Schools and Educational Settings Using Tapping for Trauma and Emotional Regulation in Correctional Facilities Tapping for Spiritual Awakening Tapping for Male Sexual Problems Radical Self-Love is Everything Tapping for Shame Tapping for Chronic Stress and Self-Care Energizing Relationships with Tapping How to Tap for Negative Memories...Without Talking About It Improve Your Eyesight with Tapping Practical Concepts for Emotional Thriving (Mine) Tapping Into Your Authentic Self Releasing Resistance to Peak Performance Working Safely with Trauma

Dancing with Wisdom: Discerning Your Yes in Challenging Times We covered… Dancing with Wisdom is Spontaneous and Improvisational: Unlike traditional structured approaches, dancing with wisdom involves a responsive and flexible mindset, attuned to the moment’s needs and energies. Tuning into Subtle Energies: Rather than reacting to the loudest voices or biggest threats, wisdom can be found in the subtle, quieter signals that our body and environment provide. Understanding and Acknowledging Fear Responses: Recognize the impact of fear and the primitive brain’s response to external threats. Acknowledge these feelings without judgment, understanding that they are natural reactions. Grounding Techniques: Use grounding techniques such as feeling your butt in your seat, taking deep breaths, and placing a hand on your heart to connect with your body and reduce anxiety. Mindful Media Consumption: Be aware of the fear-inducing tactics used by the media. Limit exposure to such content and approach news consumption with an objective and critical mindset. Physical Awareness and Connection: Engage in body awareness practices, like noticing your surroundings and the physical sensations in your body, to stay grounded and present. Slowing Down to Reduce Stress: Slow down your reactions and responses to allow your body and mind to settle, creating space for wisdom to emerge. Body as an Antenna for Truth: Recognize that your body is an antenna for what is true and real. Pay attention to physical signals and sensations as sources of wisdom. Co-Regulation with Others: Spend time with calm and supportive people to co-regulate your emotional state. Being in a safe and caring environment can help you drop into a more relaxed state quickly. Inviting Gentle Wisdom: When seeking guidance, invite wisdom gently by asking open-ended questions and allowing answers to come softly without forcing them. Embracing Discomfort: Instead of avoiding discomfort, allow yourself to sit with it and breathe through it. This can transform discomfort into a source of insight and growth. Dancing with the Heart: Engage with your heart by placing a hand on it and acknowledging its wisdom. The heart has a strong energy field and is sensitive to internal and external states. Tapping into Meridian Channels: Use tapping techniques to stimulate meridian channels, which can help balance emotions and provide clarity. Using Props for Clarity: Use physical objects to represent issues or decisions, moving them around to gain a different perspective and clarity. Gratitude for Primitive Brain’s Wisdom: Acknowledge and appreciate the primitive brain’s role in survival, while also recognizing that modern circumstances may not require such heightened vigilance. Inviting Fresh Wisdom: Recognize that you have access to new wisdom and resources that your ancestors did not, and use this to inform your decisions and actions. Balancing Preparation and Stress: Understand that preparedness does not always require stress. Explore ways to prepare calmly and confidently. Dancing with the Rhythms of Life: Tune into the rhythms of your life and body, whether slow and steady or more energetic, to access different aspects of wisdom. Co-Creating with the Environment: Engage with your environment in a way that supports your well-being, whether it’s finding a peaceful spot in nature or a cozy corner in a café. Trusting Small, Subtle Movements: Trust small, subtle movements and decisions, rather than waiting for big, obvious signs. This can guide you gently in the right direction. Discernment Over Judgment: Focus on discerning your ‘yes’ in challenging times rather than making rigid decisions or judgments. This allows for a more flexible and adaptive approach. Balancing Generous ‘Yes’ and Healthy Boundaries: Practice saying a generous ‘yes’ while maintaining healthy boundaries to prevent resentment and burnout. Engaging with Guilt as a Poor Dance Partner: Recognize that guilt is not a helpful guide. Instead, focus on what feels true and aligned with your values and integrity. Physical Activity for Emotional Regulation: Use physical activity, such as walking or gentle exercises, to regulate emotions and access deeper wisdom. Daily Reflection for Insight: Spend a few minutes each day reflecting on your thoughts and emotions, writing down insights to connect with your inner guidance.

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Dancing with Wisdom: Discerning Your Yes in Challenging Times

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