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I help high-performers escape their mental prisons | Internal Tech™ Pioneer | Ex-Chelsea/Barcelona Performance Coach | Author: GLITCH: the hidden code running your life (and how to debug it)| ₿
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RobBrinded 2 months ago
The tourist who almost drowned (and what happened after I saved her)... On the beach with the girls this morning. The beach closest to me is brutally dangerous - calm one moment, then massive waves smashing in combined with rocks. You're in real trouble fast. I've pulled out multiple people from this beach. One last year with her shin snapped in half. So I'm sitting there watching tourists wander in, paying zero attention to the danger. A family starts putting their towels down and their 6-year-old girl runs straight down to the waves. I can't stay silent. My Pay Attention/Ignore wheel fires up. I warn the father. He thanks me. Twenty seconds later, waves crash in exactly where she was standing. The mother thanks me too. Perfect. Girl saved. Job done. I walk away and sit with my girls. And I'm trembling. Not from danger. From my Right/Wrong wheel spinning: "Should I have said something? Was I wrong to tell them? Did I come across as paranoid?" The wheel that just saved that girl's life was now torturing me with doubt. Then my Pay Attention wheel kicked back in. I couldn't enjoy myself anymore. Kept muttering about tourists not paying attention. Couldn't ignore them. My morning with my daughters was being consumed by obsessive pattern-watching. Here's where it gets interesting. I caught myself. Watched the wheels spinning. Both of them - the hypervigilance and the self-judgment. I observed the thoughts: "They're not paying attention. Something bad could happen. I should warn more people. But what if I'm being paranoid? What if I look crazy?" Just watched them. With compassion, not judgment. And within minutes, the wheels dissolved. Not forever - they'll spin again when there's real danger. But in that moment, the compulsive grip released. I got to enjoy the rest of the morning with my girls. The tourist family went on to have a lovely day at the beach. Everyone was fine. This is the difference between knowing about hamster wheels and actually stepping into admin mode: The same pattern that makes you brilliant in crisis doesn't have to imprison you in peace. My hypervigilance saved a life today. Then it tried to ruin my morning. But because I could observe it spinning without being consumed by it, I got to keep the benefit without the suffering. The pattern served me when I was young - spotting danger kept me safe. But now I can choose when to use it. That's not positive thinking. That's not suppressing the pattern. That's the actual mechanics of consciousness work: Observation dissolves programming. Not fighting it. Not fixing it. Just seeing it clearly enough that you're no longer run by it. If you recognise this pattern in yourself - the hypervigilance that serves you sometimes but torments you always - my book "Glitch" maps exactly how this wheel was installed and how to step outside it. It's not theory. It's what I just did on the beach this morning. Grab it here: [link in bio] Rob P.S. Little Rob created that wheel to keep me safe when I was young. It worked brilliantly. Still does when there's real danger. But he didn't know it would keep running 24/7 for the next 50 years. The dissolution came from thanking him, not fighting him. image
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RobBrinded 2 months ago
The father's fear that creates what he dreads... One of my greatest pleasures is working with fathers who want to focus on themselves in relation to their children. What do I normally find? The father is fearful that their kid will be unable in some foreseeable future. What does their mind think is the best solution? Focus on making them the opposite - more able. How do they do this? Some constantly tell them "you can do anything." Some push relentlessly. Some threaten. It's all to keep the kid from the left side of the wheel and push them to the right. Here's the problem: what they're fearful of, they attract. Constantly telling them? The child thinks "why does he keep saying that... something must be wrong with me." Pushing them? Makes them feel unable to stop the push. Threatening? The kid either wilts under pressure or rebels - creating exactly the "unable to control" situation the father feared. It's inevitable based on the rules of this game called life. The road of despair is paved with good intentions. What to do as a father then? Be fully present. When triggered by fear, understand it's not the child in front of you - it's your inner child programmer triggered and needing comforting. Sounds woo woo? Maybe. But it's the highest form of intelligence. Do this or your glitchy code gets passed to your child. And so on. And so forth. If you recognise this pattern, my book maps all five wheels that create these traps: [link] Enjoy your weekend. Rob P.S. Your fear for them becomes their fear of themselves. image
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RobBrinded 2 months ago
The best way to end something is to let it starve. You see, conflict thrives on attention. The moment you engage, you feed it. And whatever you feed grows. But if you simply let it be, if you withdraw your energy, it withers away. Like a fire deprived of oxygen. The world is built on patterns, loops of cause and effect. Most people stay trapped within them, reacting endlessly, playing the same game over and over. These loops are what I call the hamster wheels. Glitches in your code, programmed in childhood, still running you decades later. But here's the secret: the game is rigged and you don't have to play. Step back - into what I call admin mode - and observe the pattern without feeding it. And the game collapses. Step away, and new pathways unfold. Where attention goes, energy flows. So if you wish to move forward? Watch for the wheels. Do not return negativity. Do not wrestle with what seeks to pull you in. Instead, remove yourself entirely. Just witness it. Break the cycle. This is where real power lies - not in resistance, but in observation. You are not bound to childhood loops. You can debug them.
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RobBrinded 2 months ago
This robs you of reality... Went for a nice walk in the sun today, down to a beach near me and decided to take a dip to top up my minerals. Sitting on the beach I was thinking about what is one of the biggest aha's you can get when understanding yourself. I thought about this until I realised I was not appreciating the beautiful sea, sun and sand but I think I've come up with one of them. It's simply that thought is mechanical. Your thought, my thought, all humans thought is mechanical. Therefore it is not intelligent. It's a mechanical script constantly whirring in the background of your head. I'll leave that there… let it percolate inside of you. What does it mean for your life, desires & struggles? Rob P.S. I was so busy thinking about consciousness that I missed the actual moment. That's what mechanical thought does - pulls you out of what's real, robbing you of reality. image
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RobBrinded 2 months ago
me confused scrolling nostr but enjoying the vibes image
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RobBrinded 2 months ago
The $40 session that erased 10 years of back pain For ten years, my back pain was getting progressively worse. I'd crawl to the toilet every morning, using my hand on my knee to support myself as I lifted the seat. Simple tasks became excruciating. Olympic massage therapists, chiropractors, physiotherapists around the world - nobody could identify the root cause. I even paid a renowned holistic practitioner $10,000 to either fix my back or work out why I had the problem. He couldn't resolve it either. Then I found Dr. Kam Yuen on YouTube. For $40 and a brief description of my problem typed into a box on his website, he claimed he could resolve my issues remotely. I didn't believe it would work, but I thought "Why not? It's only $40." The next morning I woke up with zero back pain. Zero. I got out of bed, walked to the bathroom, felt no discomfort whatsoever. I can still remember trying to trigger the pain in my apartment by twisting and turning - if anyone had been watching, they would have thought I'd lost my mind. Later I found the email with his session recording. In less than 20 seconds, he'd identified and resolved what countless experts and thousands of dollars couldn't touch. That was the moment everything changed for me. For the next three years, (now 15 yrs) I became obsessed with mastering his methodology. I studied all day, every day, often dreaming about the concepts at night. I practiced constantly, developing the sensitivity to detect when something was "on" or "off" in the human system. Here's what I discovered: When I found the actual cause of a problem - the real weakness behind a symptom - and strengthened it, the issue would resolve instantly. This became my gold standard: if something I did didn't create immediate, noticeable change, it probably wasn't the true diagnosis. The results with clients: A one-year-old girl diagnosed with cirrhosis of the liver - doctors said she needed a transplant and would die within a year without it. After systematic remote sessions, her blood markers normalised. Within a year, all scans showed her liver was completely healthy. The doctors used the word "miraculous." Today she's a healthy eight-year-old. A UK client with 19 years of debilitating back pain despite multiple surgeries and heavy medication. After one session, he woke the next day completely pain-free for the first time in nearly two decades. Two weeks later he was playing golf again. A client whose chronic fatigue had lasted over a year. One session. The exhaustion lifted immediately. Here's what this work actually does: I detect weak energy signals in your system - the energetic imbalances creating your physical pain, emotional blocks, or life issues. Then I strengthen those weaknesses in real-time. When your energy body is strengthened, your body's natural healing ability kicks in. You often experience immediate relief - sometimes on the spot, sometimes within hours or days. This works remotely. I don't need to touch you or even see you. Distance doesn't matter. What can energetics resolve? Physical pain (back, joints, chronic conditions) Emotional issues (anxiety, depression, stuck patterns) Relationship dynamics that feel impossible to shift Performance blocks (in sports, business, creativity) Allergies and sensitivities Sleep issues "Mystery" symptoms doctors can't explain The body manifests physical symptoms from non-physical causes. Your shoulder pain might be from feeling emotionally "tied up" in a relationship. Your digestive issues might be from difficulty "digesting" a traumatic experience. Your chronic fatigue might be from constantly taking on others' emotions. The body speaks in metaphors - energetics finds and corrects what's actually creating the problem. Its difficult to fully understand how it happens but it gets results, and thats all that matters. Sessions are done via Zoom/phone: I explain what I'm doing (not mysterious or woo-woo) You'll often feel the shifts happening in real-time I work systematically through the weaknesses I detect Most issues resolve or significantly improve in one session Some deeper patterns need 2-3 sessions If you want to explore this, DM me with: A brief description of what you want to resolve Your timezone (for scheduling) I'll respond within 24 hours to set up a session. Rob P.S. After 20+ years using energetics with thousands of clients, I've noticed patterns in why symptoms exist. I later mapped these into what I call the Five Hamster Wheels - the childhood programming creating the weaknesses in the first place. Some clients want to understand these patterns (it deepens the work), others just want the physical/emotional relief. Both approaches work. You choose what serves you.
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RobBrinded 2 months ago
Spend most days helping clients trapped in their hamster wheels... This morning I had to save our hamster, Fluffy, because it had trapped its head in a door hinge. You cant make this shit up. image
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You tired of catching other people's shit boomerangs? Got an angry note on my car this morning. "YOU'RE PARKING WRONG" Heart racing. Anger flooding. That familiar tightness. Right/Wrong wheel - instant activation. But here's what I noticed: their Right/Wrong wheel triggered mine. They felt I was wrong and needed correcting. I felt attacked - "I did the wrong thing." This is how wheels propagate. One person's programming catches yours. I caught their shit boomerang. Years ago? This would have festered for months. Avoided neighbors. Replayed it obsessively. The wheel spinning endlessly. Now? Two minutes of observation and I'm back with my family. Fully present. Zero residue. Not because I "fixed" anything. Because I SAW the pattern clearly. When you can see it, you don't have to run it. That parking note cost my neighbor their peace. It didn't cost me mine. That's not spiritual bypass. That's admin mode. If you're tired of catching other people's shit boomerangs, my book maps all five wheels. Glitch The book (link in bio) Rob P.S. They pierced my boundaries and touched the wound inside me. Years ago, that would have meant I wasn't free. Now it just means I have the antidote. image
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The Universe's Backwards Protocol... I sleep better on the floor than on an expensive bed. My body heals faster eating animal fat - the thing we've been told will kill us. At first, these felt like weird personal quirks. Then I started noticing a pattern. Cold showers make you warmer. Fasting gives you energy. Working fewer hours produces better results. Admitting you're wrong makes people trust you more. And the one that haunts me: Parents who hover over their kids in the playground - constantly warning "be careful!" - have children who get injured MORE, not less. The very thing they're doing to prevent harm creates it. Here's what I've observed over 30 years: Your survival programming creates the exact opposite of what it promises. Let me show you how this maps to the hamster wheels: Gain/Loss: Clutch tightly to avoid loss → Creates scarcity that repels abundance Able/Unable: Protect kids from all challenge → Create unable adults who can't assess risk Right/Wrong: Need to always be right → Miss the wisdom that comes from being wrong Support/Let Down: Over-support to prevent disappointment → They never learn resilience Attention/Ignore: Monitor constantly to avoid danger → Hypervigilance creates the anxiety that clouds judgment The pattern is undeniable. Every hamster wheel runs on the same corrupted code: "If I just DO MORE, HARDER, WITH MORE CONTROL, I'll finally be safe." But reality operates on a different protocol. The Taoists called it wu wei - action through non-action. Here's the counterintuitive truth: When you stop resisting what is and simply observe your mind trying to change reality, the programming dissolves by itself. Not by trying harder to accept it. Not by forcing yourself to be different. Not by adding another "should" to your list. Just... seeing it. Where is your: Mind insisting you should gain more (while creating loss)? Thoughts saying you're unable (while your capability is right there)? Voice demanding you be right (while staying stuck)? Programming over-supporting others (while draining yourself)? Pattern seeking attention (while pushing connection away)? The universe isn't asking you to DO anything different. It's inviting you to SEE what's actually happening. Every time the "right" approach didn't work - that was reality showing you the code was corrupted. Every time you thought "I should try harder" - that was the hamster wheel spinning faster, not the solution. Every time you resisted what is - that resistance WAS the suffering, not the circumstance. If you want to see how all five wheels create these backwards outcomes through simple observation, I map the complete system in "Glitch": [link in bio] Rob P.S. The most counterintuitive thing of all? You don't need to DO anything with this information. Not even "practice observing." Just notice when your mind is fighting reality. The seeing itself dissolves the fight. That's the universe's protocol - change through awareness, not through effort. image
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RobBrinded 2 months ago
Counterintuitive Day.... I sleep better on the floor than in a bed. Whats another one you've found? image
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RobBrinded 2 months ago
How to overcome social anxiety and low self esteem... I was thinking about my thinking today - as you do. I've come to realise that my thought is completely conditioned and is pretty much on a loop, like a script. When you really watch the thoughts that come up for you today, you'll see that they can be condensed down to 5 main loops or scripts that I call hamster wheels. I've called them that because they're rigged against what you want consciously - and in understanding that glitch, they'll show you why you can never change. Let's say you want to know how to overcome social anxiety and low self-esteem. The hardest thing, apart from you lacking confidence, will be recognising and seeing the illusion. The illusion of you thinking your thoughts are real and unique when in fact they're just the same habitual wheel spinning as usual. In other words, just like an optical illusion, you're caught in a hamster wheel and you're believing it 100% and reinforcing it. How do you actually overcome social anxiety and low self-esteem? See that you've been conditioned this way and that underneath, you have an incentive to be that way to be safe. Sounds crazy, but it's true if you look. So the only way to overcome social anxiety and "gain" self-esteem is to dissolve the illusion - or in this young man's case, hit the wall and find out what he thought was a path was not. Rob image
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Do you ever catch yourself doing this? I was on the balcony this morning thinking about my day ahead. Podcast, webinar, one client session. Then I caught the thought: "Good, that's enough for today." Enough. Enough for who? I felt myself checking against some invisible quota - like I needed to hit an arbitrary number before I could relax. Before I deserved to relax. That's nuts. That's a prison. Watch what happens when this script runs: Not enough side: "I should do more. I should have done that. I'm not doing enough." The anxiety, the grinding, the never-satisfied feeling. Enough side: Relief. But conditional. Like you've earned permission to exist for a few hours. Until tomorrow when the quota resets. This affects BOTH sides of the wheel. Left-siders feel perpetually behind. Right-siders compulsively overdeliver. But here's what hit me: I'm not free. Who's the authority setting this quota? What happens if you don't hit it? What reward do you get for meeting it? And why does that reward only last until tomorrow? If you watch this closely - and I mean REALLY observe it running in real-time like I just did - you'll see how childhood and schooling imprinted an agenda we're still following. We're checking: Am I doing enough to feel... valuable? Loved? Good enough? But we're not free. We're trapped in an achievement loop designed by institutions and internalised by a child who thought survival meant being "good enough." The "enough" script is one of the most insidious programmes running. It disguises itself as healthy motivation. But it's actually the Able/Unable wheel in sophisticated camouflage. Here's the truth: there is no "enough" that will ever satisfy that childhood wound. The quota is a lie. The prison is optional. If you're ready to drop this glitch that imprisons you, my book "Glitch" shows you exactly how this programming was installed - and more importantly, how to debug it through observation. Not by trying harder. Not by "doing enough." By seeing the pattern so clearly that it loses power over you. Grab it here: Rob image
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RobBrinded 2 months ago
#nostrhelp anyone point me in the right direction to add a nostr symbol to an email footer?
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RobBrinded 2 months ago
The self-help guru trap 🪤 Long day with clients and a big podcast so keeping this one short and succinct. Self-help gurus are nearly always right side hamster wheel dwellers. They use tools and techniques to try and get you to be more like them. "You can do it" - walk on coals - arrow in the throat type gimmicks to make you believe in yourself. But they're just farming left-sided dwellers to give them hope to be more confident and successful. This gives you some altitude energy to rise up on the right side of the wheel but it can never last. You will inevitably slide back to where your operating system thinks you are safe. These gurus actually reinforce your wheel and trap you further within it. There is only one way to be confident and successful… see your wheels. If you want to map all five patterns that keep you trapped, my book "Glitch" shows you exactly how: [link in bio] Rob P.S. The gurus aren't evil - they're just trapped in their own Unable/Able wheel, needing to prove their worth by 'helping' others succeed. They're running the same program as you, just from the opposite side. image
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How to “teach” critical thinking or how to do the opposite…
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The one thing I keep saying (because it's the only thing that matters).... I've been watching myself lately. On podcasts, in writing, even in sessions - I notice this pattern: I avoid repeating my core message because I think it's boring. So I talk about minerals. Bitcoin. Family systems. Educational programming. All the fascinating branches. And they ARE important. But I'm dancing around the trunk. Here's what I caught myself doing: My Support/Let Down wheel spinning. "What if they're disappointed? What if they've heard this before? What if I'm not giving them something NEW?" So I overthink what the listener wants instead of just saying the truth again. The great teachers? They repeat the same core message over and over. Each time the listener hears it, they get a deeper fractal of understanding - IF the message is true. So here it is, stripped down: You're running old scripts that are glitchy and shouldn't be trusted. These scripts were created from feelings of unsafety and distrust. The cruel irony? Those are the exact two things you'll get from running them. Your scripts make you suffer. They quite literally create your reality. The scripts need upgrading. And there's only ONE way to do it: Admin mode. That's the secret to winning at life. Observation without judgment. Seeing the code running without being consumed by it. Catching the wheel spinning and stepping off. Not fighting it. Not fixing it. Just watching it with the same compassion you'd show a terrified child. If you don't know how to access admin mode: Work it out yourself through observation (Krishnamurti's path). Read my book "Glitch" where I map all five wheels: Or if you want results fast, book a session and I'll show you exactly which wheel you're running: support@robbrinded.com ( Sats accepted ofcourse) That's it. That's the whole message. Everything else - the minerals, the family patterns, the physical breakdowns, the generational transmission - is just showing you HOW the scripts destroy you and WHY admin mode works. But the core never changes: Observation dissolves programming. I'll probably say this 1,000 more times in 1,000 different ways. Because it's the only thing that actually matters. Rob P.S. Notice I just caught my own wheel mid-spin? The overthinking, the "what will they think," the need to not disappoint? That's admin mode in action. I saw it, entered admin mode, and said what needed to be said anyway. image