Spend most days helping clients trapped in their hamster wheels... This morning I had to save our hamster, Fluffy, because it had trapped its head in a door hinge. You cant make this shit up.

You tired of catching other people's shit boomerangs? Got an angry note on my car this morning. "YOU'RE PARKING WRONG" Heart racing. Anger flooding. That familiar tightness. Right/Wrong wheel - instant activation. But here's what I noticed: their Right/Wrong wheel triggered mine. They felt I was wrong and needed correcting. I felt attacked - "I did the wrong thing." This is how wheels propagate. One person's programming catches yours. I caught their shit boomerang. Years ago? This would have festered for months. Avoided neighbors. Replayed it obsessively. The wheel spinning endlessly. Now? Two minutes of observation and I'm back with my family. Fully present. Zero residue. Not because I "fixed" anything. Because I SAW the pattern clearly. When you can see it, you don't have to run it. That parking note cost my neighbor their peace. It didn't cost me mine. That's not spiritual bypass. That's admin mode. If you're tired of catching other people's shit boomerangs, my book maps all five wheels. Glitch The book (link in bio) Rob P.S. They pierced my boundaries and touched the wound inside me. Years ago, that would have meant I wasn't free. Now it just means I have the antidote.

The Universe's Backwards Protocol... I sleep better on the floor than on an expensive bed. My body heals faster eating animal fat - the thing we've been told will kill us. At first, these felt like weird personal quirks. Then I started noticing a pattern. Cold showers make you warmer. Fasting gives you energy. Working fewer hours produces better results. Admitting you're wrong makes people trust you more. And the one that haunts me: Parents who hover over their kids in the playground - constantly warning "be careful!" - have children who get injured MORE, not less. The very thing they're doing to prevent harm creates it. Here's what I've observed over 30 years: Your survival programming creates the exact opposite of what it promises. Let me show you how this maps to the hamster wheels: Gain/Loss: Clutch tightly to avoid loss → Creates scarcity that repels abundance Able/Unable: Protect kids from all challenge → Create unable adults who can't assess risk Right/Wrong: Need to always be right → Miss the wisdom that comes from being wrong Support/Let Down: Over-support to prevent disappointment → They never learn resilience Attention/Ignore: Monitor constantly to avoid danger → Hypervigilance creates the anxiety that clouds judgment The pattern is undeniable. Every hamster wheel runs on the same corrupted code: "If I just DO MORE, HARDER, WITH MORE CONTROL, I'll finally be safe." But reality operates on a different protocol. The Taoists called it wu wei - action through non-action. Here's the counterintuitive truth: When you stop resisting what is and simply observe your mind trying to change reality, the programming dissolves by itself. Not by trying harder to accept it. Not by forcing yourself to be different. Not by adding another "should" to your list. Just... seeing it. Where is your: Mind insisting you should gain more (while creating loss)? Thoughts saying you're unable (while your capability is right there)? Voice demanding you be right (while staying stuck)? Programming over-supporting others (while draining yourself)? Pattern seeking attention (while pushing connection away)? The universe isn't asking you to DO anything different. It's inviting you to SEE what's actually happening. Every time the "right" approach didn't work - that was reality showing you the code was corrupted. Every time you thought "I should try harder" - that was the hamster wheel spinning faster, not the solution. Every time you resisted what is - that resistance WAS the suffering, not the circumstance. If you want to see how all five wheels create these backwards outcomes through simple observation, I map the complete system in "Glitch": [link in bio] Rob P.S. The most counterintuitive thing of all? You don't need to DO anything with this information. Not even "practice observing." Just notice when your mind is fighting reality. The seeing itself dissolves the fight. That's the universe's protocol - change through awareness, not through effort.

Counterintuitive Day.... I sleep better on the floor than in a bed. Whats another one you've found?

How to overcome social anxiety and low self esteem... I was thinking about my thinking today - as you do. I've come to realise that my thought is completely conditioned and is pretty much on a loop, like a script. When you really watch the thoughts that come up for you today, you'll see that they can be condensed down to 5 main loops or scripts that I call hamster wheels. I've called them that because they're rigged against what you want consciously - and in understanding that glitch, they'll show you why you can never change. Let's say you want to know how to overcome social anxiety and low self-esteem. The hardest thing, apart from you lacking confidence, will be recognising and seeing the illusion. The illusion of you thinking your thoughts are real and unique when in fact they're just the same habitual wheel spinning as usual. In other words, just like an optical illusion, you're caught in a hamster wheel and you're believing it 100% and reinforcing it. How do you actually overcome social anxiety and low self-esteem? See that you've been conditioned this way and that underneath, you have an incentive to be that way to be safe. Sounds crazy, but it's true if you look. So the only way to overcome social anxiety and "gain" self-esteem is to dissolve the illusion - or in this young man's case, hit the wall and find out what he thought was a path was not. Rob

Do you ever catch yourself doing this? I was on the balcony this morning thinking about my day ahead. Podcast, webinar, one client session. Then I caught the thought: "Good, that's enough for today." Enough. Enough for who? I felt myself checking against some invisible quota - like I needed to hit an arbitrary number before I could relax. Before I deserved to relax. That's nuts. That's a prison. Watch what happens when this script runs: Not enough side: "I should do more. I should have done that. I'm not doing enough." The anxiety, the grinding, the never-satisfied feeling. Enough side: Relief. But conditional. Like you've earned permission to exist for a few hours. Until tomorrow when the quota resets. This affects BOTH sides of the wheel. Left-siders feel perpetually behind. Right-siders compulsively overdeliver. But here's what hit me: I'm not free. Who's the authority setting this quota? What happens if you don't hit it? What reward do you get for meeting it? And why does that reward only last until tomorrow? If you watch this closely - and I mean REALLY observe it running in real-time like I just did - you'll see how childhood and schooling imprinted an agenda we're still following. We're checking: Am I doing enough to feel... valuable? Loved? Good enough? But we're not free. We're trapped in an achievement loop designed by institutions and internalised by a child who thought survival meant being "good enough." The "enough" script is one of the most insidious programmes running. It disguises itself as healthy motivation. But it's actually the Able/Unable wheel in sophisticated camouflage. Here's the truth: there is no "enough" that will ever satisfy that childhood wound. The quota is a lie. The prison is optional. If you're ready to drop this glitch that imprisons you, my book "Glitch" shows you exactly how this programming was installed - and more importantly, how to debug it through observation. Not by trying harder. Not by "doing enough." By seeing the pattern so clearly that it loses power over you. Grab it here: https://www.glitchthebook.co/ Rob

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The self-help guru trap 🪤 Long day with clients and a big podcast so keeping this one short and succinct. Self-help gurus are nearly always right side hamster wheel dwellers. They use tools and techniques to try and get you to be more like them. "You can do it" - walk on coals - arrow in the throat type gimmicks to make you believe in yourself. But they're just farming left-sided dwellers to give them hope to be more confident and successful. This gives you some altitude energy to rise up on the right side of the wheel but it can never last. You will inevitably slide back to where your operating system thinks you are safe. These gurus actually reinforce your wheel and trap you further within it. There is only one way to be confident and successful… see your wheels. If you want to map all five patterns that keep you trapped, my book "Glitch" shows you exactly how: [link in bio] Rob P.S. The gurus aren't evil - they're just trapped in their own Unable/Able wheel, needing to prove their worth by 'helping' others succeed. They're running the same program as you, just from the opposite side.

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The one thing I keep saying (because it's the only thing that matters).... I've been watching myself lately. On podcasts, in writing, even in sessions - I notice this pattern: I avoid repeating my core message because I think it's boring. So I talk about minerals. Bitcoin. Family systems. Educational programming. All the fascinating branches. And they ARE important. But I'm dancing around the trunk. Here's what I caught myself doing: My Support/Let Down wheel spinning. "What if they're disappointed? What if they've heard this before? What if I'm not giving them something NEW?" So I overthink what the listener wants instead of just saying the truth again. The great teachers? They repeat the same core message over and over. Each time the listener hears it, they get a deeper fractal of understanding - IF the message is true. So here it is, stripped down: You're running old scripts that are glitchy and shouldn't be trusted. These scripts were created from feelings of unsafety and distrust. The cruel irony? Those are the exact two things you'll get from running them. Your scripts make you suffer. They quite literally create your reality. The scripts need upgrading. And there's only ONE way to do it: Admin mode. That's the secret to winning at life. Observation without judgment. Seeing the code running without being consumed by it. Catching the wheel spinning and stepping off. Not fighting it. Not fixing it. Just watching it with the same compassion you'd show a terrified child. If you don't know how to access admin mode: Work it out yourself through observation (Krishnamurti's path). Read my book "Glitch" where I map all five wheels: https://www.glitchthebook.co Or if you want results fast, book a session and I'll show you exactly which wheel you're running: support@robbrinded.com ( Sats accepted ofcourse) That's it. That's the whole message. Everything else - the minerals, the family patterns, the physical breakdowns, the generational transmission - is just showing you HOW the scripts destroy you and WHY admin mode works. But the core never changes: Observation dissolves programming. I'll probably say this 1,000 more times in 1,000 different ways. Because it's the only thing that actually matters. Rob P.S. Notice I just caught my own wheel mid-spin? The overthinking, the "what will they think," the need to not disappoint? That's admin mode in action. I saw it, entered admin mode, and said what needed to be said anyway.

When a Bitcoiner explains your work better than you can.... Yesterday I sent an email about the hyper vigilant father whose body was breaking down from constant surveillance of reality. Jake Woodhouse - an Investor, MC, & Podcaster + bitcoiner jakewoodhouse@primal.net - left a comment that honestly made me laugh.😂 Not because it was funny. Because I had to ask AI to translate it for me. Here's what he said: "Brilliant example of combined intellectual and humanistic capital allocation that would drive returns in every area of your life." I knew it was positive. The words felt good. But I had no idea what he actually meant. So I asked Claude: "What's he saying here?" 😕 Turns out Jake saw something I'd been doing for 30 years but never named properly: Most people allocate 90% of their life energy to running survival code written by a terrified four-year-old. Every hamster wheel - the hypervigilance, the achievement addiction, the perfectionism - is capital allocation. Energy going into outdated survival protocols instead of actual living. The "returns" Jake mentioned? That's what happens when you debug the code and reallocate that energy. Suddenly you have bandwidth for: Actually being present with your kids instead of scanning for threats Relationships that feel nourishing instead of draining Work that flows instead of grinding A body that functions instead of breaking down The intellectual part: Understanding which wheel you're running and why. The humanistic part: Having compassion for the brilliant child who created it. The allocation: Choosing observation over automation. The returns: Everything else in your life. (Priceless) Jake nailed it in one sentence. Took me a whole book to say the same thing. If you're ready to see where your energy is actually going - and reclaim it - I can show you in a 60-minute session. I'll map your specific wheel, trace it to origin, and give you the observation practice that dissolves it. Email me: support@robbrinded.com Rob

The exhausted father who was watching like MI6.... A client came to me last week. Professional. Caring father. Doing everything right on the surface. But his body was systematically breaking down: Chronic exhaustion no amount of sleep could fix Heart arrhythmias appearing after drinking Eyesight deteriorating Needing alcohol just to "switch off" When I checked his system, I found what I expected at the physical level: iron excess, testosterone crashed, digestive system weak, circulation slowed to a crawl. But here's what fascinated me... Every single thing he talked about connected to one word. The entitled kids have no awareness (made him furious) His father taught without awareness it wouldn't work (source of deep frustration) He overthinks everything (too much awareness) People at restaurants with zero awareness (triggered rants) His fear of losing eyesight (fear of losing awareness itself) This client loves a rant which is a little harder to follow but I was locked in in following the pattern. Then I saw it clearly. His entire nervous system was running hyper vigilance protocols 24/7 - constant surveillance of reality, monitoring everything, missing nothing. MI6 would be proud. The unconscious belief driving his system: "Safety equals being aware of everything. Danger equals lack of awareness." The cruel irony? The "entitled" people he resented - the ones living with no awareness - they had exactly what he unconsciously wanted: freedom from the exhausting burden of total vigilance. And the alcohol? It wasn't just an escape. It was the only way he could temporarily step off the awareness wheel and feel free. Let me show you what was really happening... His father was stationed in post-WWII Germany. Saw devastation. Prostitution. Suffering beyond words. Carried crushing guilt about British celebration while Germans starved. This created a generational pattern that downloaded into his system: Cannot celebrate without awareness of others' suffering Must be aware of the "cost" of everything Guilt around enjoying anything Deep resentment toward those who aren't burdened with this awareness Here's the physical manifestation: Fear literally attracts iron - I can test this energetically. The iron excess was lowering his testosterone. Constant cortisol from hypervigilance was burning through his mineral reserves. His digestive system weakened from chronic fear. Circulation slowed because he was unconsciously trying to "slow down to be more aware." Even his eyes were exhausted from decades of surveillance. His body was faithfully executing survival code written by a brilliant child who learned: "If I'm not aware of EVERYTHING, something terrible will happen." What I did during the session: I showed him the pattern playing out. Cleared the anger stored in his liver. Strengthened his digestive system. Increased his circulation speed. But the real work? Becoming aware of his over-awareness. This is the paradox that dissolves the pattern: The only way to escape excessive awareness is to become aware that you're being excessively aware. We had a good laugh at this. 😂 Then you can observe it. Catch it, and in doing so (this is key)… Let it go. Not through alcohol. Not through numbing. Through conscious observation of the program running. By the end of the session, his stomach immediately felt better. His entire system started switching back on. Because he could finally see the wheel he'd been running for decades. His inner child was brilliant - hyper vigilance kept him safe when the world felt dangerous. But that four-year-old programmer didn't know the war was over. If you recognise this pattern - the hyper vigilance, the exhaustion from trying to see everything, the resentment toward people who seem blissfully unaware - you're likely running the same wheel. It's what I call the Lack/Gain of Awareness wheel. One of five hamster wheels I've mapped over 30 years of working with elite performers who are systematically destroying themselves through childhood survival programming. I can show you exactly which wheel you're running and how to step off it. In a 60-minute session, I'll map your specific pattern - the childhood origin, how it manifests physically, and the observation practice that dissolves it. No generic advice. Just surgical precision based on what your system reveals. If you're ready to see what's running your system try a session with me. Rob P.S. Those entitled people who trigger you? They're not your enemy. They're showing you what your body is begging for: permission to exist without being the awareness police of the entire universe. Your nervous system is exhausted from running surveillance protocols that were designed for a threat that no longer exists.

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Your suffering isn't random. It has exactly five cogs. ⚙️ ⚙️ ⚙️ ⚙️ ⚙️ Naval Ravikant said something brilliant about David Deutsch's work: "Good explanations are hard to vary." When you look back on a truly good explanation, you think: "How could this have been otherwise? This is the only way this thing could work." The iPhone is hard to vary. The aeroplane wing is hard to vary. The electric car design is hard to vary. They're all constrained by reality itself: physics, aerodynamics, human hands. You can't just change them without losing what makes them work. Here's what I realised after 30 years of debugging human consciousness: Human suffering has exactly five shapes. Not four. Not six. Five. The Five Hamster Wheel System isn't something I invented. It's something I discovered, like finding the periodic table of human programming. Gain/Loss Able/Unable Right/Wrong Support/Let Down Attention/Ignore Every pattern of suffering I've ever encountered, from Premier League players to Olympic athletes to struggling parents, fits into one of these five binary wheels. I tried to find a sixth. I looked for years. It doesn't exist. I tried to collapse them into four. They won't collapse. Each wheel is distinct, irreducible. The framework is hard to vary because it's mapping to something real: the actual architecture of how childhood survival programming gets written into your nervous system. When I show someone their specific wheel, they don't say "interesting theory." They say "Holy shit, you just described my entire life." That's not because I'm clever. It's because the explanation is constrained by reality. It's hard to vary because it's true. Naval talks about how good knowledge is fractal. You meet it at the level you're ready to receive it. You might get 20% the first time, 25% the second time. That's exactly how "Glitch" works. First read: you recognise your dominant wheel. Second read: you see how your parents ran the same wheel. Third read: you catch yourself spinning in real-time and step into admin mode. The framework doesn't change. Your depth of understanding does. If you're ready to see the five patterns that are running your life (not theory, but the actual code), grab the book here: link in bio It's hard to vary because human programming is hard to vary. Rob P.S. The reason therapy often fails isn't because therapists aren't trying. It's because they're working without the map. They're treating symptoms without seeing the underlying wheel structure. Once you see the five wheels clearly, everything else makes sense. That's what "hard to vary" explanations do: they make the complex suddenly simple. #consciousness #psychology #naval #selfawareness #trauma

The moment I almost broke my daughter's trust forever --- Yesterday I shared my first rollercoaster ride, but I had another story from Disney that was even more powerful. We all arrived home to our cabin at Center Parcs after an exhausting but exhilarating day. I was getting things ready for bed when I heard my youngest start to cry. I rushed into the living room to find Sylvia comforting Bo as Lima looked on, upset and starting to cry herself. My Unable/Able hamster wheel got triggered immediately. I angry-panic asked: "What's going on?!" Sylvia explained that Lima had thrown a sharp keyring holder at Bo which hit her on the forehead. This triggered my Right/Wrong wheel. I became 100% angry and raised my voice at Lima for doing something so "wrong." Lima burst out crying. Immediately upon seeing her like this, I caught myself and stepped into admin mode. I KNEW Lima would never intentionally hurt her sister. I went to soothe her, but she was also triggered (her Unable/Able wheel) and moved away from me, hiding behind the curtain. **This is exactly how wheel scripts get imprinted.** I asked Sylvia to go comfort Lima, which she was able to do. But when I approached, Lima pushed me away and told me: "Get away. I don't want you here." Those words cut deep. I went to bed but realised her words had triggered something profound in me. A deep sadness at being pushed away. Sitting on my bed, I watched my thoughts spin: *"I shouted at her and now she no longer loves me."* *"I've hurt her and now I'm unable to get close to her."* *"I've broken something in our relationship."* I watched the hurt spin and looked for the hamster wheel causing the most pain in me. I knew the situation "out there" had triggered some deep glitchy coding in myself. I also knew that if I reacted from that place, I would CREATE the very reality I feared most. Then I saw it: **Support/Let Down.** I felt I had let her down. Not supported her. And she was deeply disappointed in me. That disappointment wound cut straight to my core. I immediately picked up little Rob (the practice I teach in my book) and comforted him. That mechanism - understanding the glitch in my code - made the wheel dissolve. Peace washed over me. Without thinking, I stood and went back into the living room. I hugged my wife, then Bo, then Lima - who was now calm and allowed me to hold her. If I hadn't done admin mode, I would have returned in anger. Because I was hurt, I would have angrily told Lima "you can't push me away like that." **That would have energised the exact script I was trying to avoid.** It would have created more disappointment and let down - a wave of destructive energy flowing through my family system, encoding the pattern deeper into all of us. Instead, I returned to my bed and slept peacefully with a deep knowing: I had stripped away another layer of conditioning that would inevitably bring me closer to my family. And that connection is the most valuable thing in my life. **Do this work. You will find that nothing is more important.** If you're ready to see which wheels are running your life - and learn how to step off them before they damage what matters most - my book "Glitch" maps all five patterns with surgical precision. **Read it here: https://www.glitchthebook.co** Rob P.S. Lima doesn't remember the incident this morning. But something shifted in our relationship. That's how this works - you don't fix the other person, you debug YOUR programming, and the relationship transforms naturally.