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RobBrinded
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I help high-performers escape their mental prisons | Internal Tech™ Pioneer | Ex-Chelsea/Barcelona Performance Coach | Author: GLITCH: the hidden code running your life (and how to debug it)| ₿
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RobBrinded 6 months ago
Hamster wheel work - undoing. Before starting anything in your life, this should be your goto. #adminmode image
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RobBrinded 6 months ago
"When my wife and I argue—which isn't often now that we both take responsibility for our patterns—we have a simple protocol: identify which hamster wheel just got triggered. My process usually goes like this: I storm off, analyze the wheel spinning in my head, recognize which childhood program just hijacked me, then return (often sheepishly) to apologize and explain what got triggered. "Sorry, that was my Right/Wrong wheel. I felt criticized and went straight back to being five years old." When Sylvia gets triggered—which is rarer—I've learned to approach carefully. She needs space first. So I wait, then gently suggest we look at what happened. Sometimes I'll even draw the wheel on the whiteboard: "Want to see which program just ran the show?" The shift is almost magical. Once we can see it's not "us" fighting but our childhood programmers battling it out, the hurt dissolves. We usually end up laughing at how predictable we are, hug it out, and actually feel closer than before the argument started. This isn't about being "evolved" or "spiritual." It's about recognizing that most conflicts are just old software glitching. When you can see the wheel instead of being trapped inside it, everything changes." Excerpt from upcoming book. 👀 image
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RobBrinded 6 months ago
anyone know who was in the honey badger suit at @`BTC Prague` ? - would love to tip him some sats. I think his name was Dominic image
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RobBrinded 6 months ago
I really enjoyed BTC Prague. Great venue, very open, and a really nice vibe. Prague is an amazing city. I do think the organizers missed an opportunity with the kids, though. I managed to get a ticket for my 8-year-old through someone, but on the website, she would have paid adult price, which is crazy. My kids and their friends were really welcomed everywhere there, and the Honey Badger guy was amazing (looking to send him some sats). However, it would be nice to add a small kids' corner or something, as they are literally the future of Bitcoin. They learn by being around adults (this is unschooling). Separating them from the conference is such a fiat schooling system approach... It takes a community to raise kids, and I'm hoping next time kids will be encouraged to attend. There is a big wave of unschoolers coming over the next few years as Bitcoiners start to realize the current system is deeply flawed and destructive to kids' learning and overall mental acuity and health. Let's treat kids seriously, and this energy will be returned in leaps and bounds. @A Place To Be @BTC Prague @Daniel Prince
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RobBrinded 6 months ago
Here's an anonymized version of the session summary from today: **A Powerful Therapy Session on Breaking the "Worthless" Programming** Rob works with a mother struggling with her 10-year-old son's difficulties and her own deep-seated patterns. **Core Issue: The "Worthless" Program** The client reveals she feels trapped between: - Needing to support her son, who isn't going to school and is "vegging out" - Her work/identity suffering as she spends time with him - A deep fear that both she and her son are "worthless" **Key Patterns Identified:** 1. **Conditional Love Pattern**: The client realizes she was never loved unconditionally by her parents - only valued for achievements. She fears she's passing this to her son. 2. **The Achievement Hamster Wheel**: - Constantly driven to achieve to feel valuable - Terrified of being "ignored" or seen as worthless - Can't stop the cycle even though it's exhausting 3. **The Paradox**: - Hates attention but fears being ignored - Pushes people away then feels abandoned - Works constantly but gets no real pleasure from achieving **Child as Mirror:** Rob points out that her son is reflecting her own programming - he's showing her what happens when someone steps off the achievement treadmill, triggering her deepest fear of having a "worthless life." **Physical Manifestation:** The client has hives on her throat - Rob connects this to her inability to "let go" and the stress of holding back her fears from her son. **The Breakthrough Insight:** She realizes she doesn't know who she is without "doing." Everything in her life is performance-based: "I am a friend, I do this. I am a mom, I do this." She admits she doesn't play or do anything just for joy anymore. **Moving Forward:** Rob emphasizes that helping herself heal this pattern is the most valuable thing she can do for her son - to free them both from this "prison" of conditional worth based on achievement. The session ends with the client feeling overwhelmed but understanding that she's at a crucial transformation point - "it's always darkest before dawn."
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RobBrinded 6 months ago
"I work with high achievers who have everything except peace. In single sessions, I help them see how their biggest strength is also their prison—like the CEO who can't stop working or the athlete who's destroying their body to prove they're still capable. By teaching them to access 'admin mode,' they learn to debug 30+ years of programming in months instead of decades. The result? They keep their edge but lose the suffering."
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RobBrinded 6 months ago
Morpheus: I’m trying to free your mind, Neo. But I can only show you the door. You’re the one that has to walk through it. image
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RobBrinded 6 months ago
According to Mills(Reference Mills, Mills, Bremner and Chesters16), copper deficiency is the leading deficiency, worldwide, among nutritional diseases of agricultural animals. One wonders if a deficiency so common among domestic animals can be absent from their human associates. Emphasis here will be on diseases of the cardiovascular, musculoskeletal and nervous systems.
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RobBrinded 6 months ago
just got a triad hug of kisses & love from my wife and girls. They are off to work on the land for @A Place To Be and in between the hugs and kisses they told me to finish the book today with a woop woop. This connection is the most valuable thing in my life. image
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RobBrinded 6 months ago
A Client Session Summary from today: Breaking the Fear-Driven Loop Client Profile: James, a business owner and father struggling with decision paralysis and a persistent cycle of starting plans but failing to execute them. Core Issue Identified: A deeply embedded psychological "script" or program created in childhood that uses fear as motivation, but paradoxically creates paralysis instead of action. The Underlying Pattern: James operates from a faulty internal program that believes: "I must pay attention to everything so I don't feel fear." This creates an impossible situation where he tries to focus on all potential threats simultaneously, resulting in: Decision paralysis ("locked up") Physical manifestations (back problems when trying to move forward) Cycles of planning without execution Fear of things "falling apart" (rooted in his mother's death) Key Therapeutic Insights: The Script's Origin: The "Paying Attention/Ignore" wheel was already installed during James's earliest years (ages 0-4) through normal childhood disconnect experiences. Little James had written the basic survival code: "If I pay attention to everything, I can prevent things from falling apart." However, when his mother died, this existing program went into hyperdrive - the worst possible validation of his deepest fear occurred, supercharging the already-existing code with massive emotional energy. The Programming Timeline: Before: "I need to pay attention to prevent things falling apart" After Mother's Death: "I MUST pay attention to EVERYTHING or EVERYTHING I LOVE WILL FALL APART" The original childhood program became turbocharged with survival-level intensity, making relaxing attention feel like risking total collapse. The Hamster Wheel Driver: James desperately seeks freedom through hypervigilant control, but this always flips him back to being imprisoned/"locked up." The more he tries to gain freedom by monitoring everything, the more locked up and paralyzed he becomes. Physical Manifestations: His back literally "locks up" when trying to move forward - a perfect physical manifestation of his psychological state. The body executes the mind's code: being "locked up" equals safety, forward movement equals danger of things falling apart. The Game Analogy: Like a faulty video game where the player can never reach the next level, James is stuck in a loop where trying harder only makes things worse. The Solution Framework: James now understands this script is deadly for his business success. True freedom can only be achieved through observing the script (non-doing) rather than fighting it. He needs to: Watch for the script's triggers (fear, urgency, "I must monitor everything") Recognize when the hypervigilant pattern activates Observe rather than fight the script until it dissolves naturally Understand that business success requires focused action, not scattered hypervigilance Practice "non-doing" - letting the script run while observing it without being consumed by it Breakthrough Moment: James realized his entire approach to business and life has been driven by this hypervigilant script, explaining why increased effort leads to decreased results. He now sees that his business can only flourish when he stops running this deadly programming. The session revealed that fixing this core programming issue through pure observation would naturally resolve his business and personal challenges. Clinical Significance: This case demonstrates how childhood survival strategies can become adult success impediments, and how somatic symptoms (back pain) often mirror psychological patterns (being "locked up"). The therapeutic approach focuses on awareness and observation rather than behavioral change, allowing the dysfunctional pattern to dissolve organically. It shows how traumatic events don't create new programming but rather supercharge existing childhood survival code with catastrophic validation. Most importantly, it reveals that business success requires stepping off the hamster wheel entirely through the practice of observational non-doing.