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"My principles are non-negotiable" ⚖️ Weigh your desires carefully against what you are sacrificing. We always trade what we have for what we want. Just make sure that once you obtain what you desired, you won’t regret the price you paid. Family, honor, health, and time cannot be refunded. Be always mindful of this, so that as you progress through life, you don’t face the unsettling regret of wanting to give up everything you’ve gained just to reclaim what you once had—before this relentless pursuit of what you thought was success. In short, it’s not enough to tell others that your principles are non-negotiable; you must remind yourself constantly. Only then will you avoid compromising—even in the smallest daily decisions—what truly matters to you. Thank you for reading, my friend! If this message resonated with you, consider leaving your "🥃" as a token of appreciation. A toast to our family!

"As long as we do not face the demons within us, we will continue trying to destroy them in others." 🪞 "We know that the wildest and most moving dramas are not performed on stage, but in the hearts of ordinary men and women who pass unnoticed, revealing nothing of the conflicts raging within them—except, perhaps, through a nervous breakdown. What is so difficult for the layperson to understand is that, in most cases, the patients themselves have no suspicion of the destructive war waged within their unconscious. If we remember that many people understand nothing about themselves, we will be less surprised to realize that there are also those who are completely unaware of their real conflicts." "Until you make the unconscious conscious, it will direct your life, and you will call it fate." 📕 (Carl Gustav Jung, in the book “New Paths in Psychology”) 📌 "Why, when judging others, do you infuse your criticism with the bitterness of your own failures?" — Josemaría Escrivá Thank you for reading, my friend! If this message has helped you in any way, consider leaving your “🥃” as a token of appreciation. A toast to our family!

Remember... In success: guard your ego. In anger: guard your words. In a group: guard your behavior. In hardship: guard your emotions. When alone: guard your thoughts. Watch your thoughts, for they become words. Watch your words, for they become actions. Watch your actions, for they become habits. Watch your habits, for they shape your character. Watch your character, for it becomes your destiny. 💀 On Thoughts in Solitude: It is curious how, in the solitude of our chambers, we allow wild thoughts to roam unchecked, like runaway horses. Would it not be wiser, oh restless mind, to exercise the same control over your thoughts as you do over your conduct before others? Cultivate, then, thoughts worthy of you—especially when no one else knows them but yourself. For it is in solitude that we forge our demons or the waxen wings that lift us from this labyrinth. On Behavior Among Men: Just as the sea reflects the sky above, your behavior reflects your inner nature. Do you act as if life were a stage play, rehearsing your lines before men? Fool! Life is not a performance where you can prepare your script. Every gesture is a truth unveiled, every action a sentence etched into the memory of the world. Seek not applause, but harmony between your inner nature and your outward deeds. On Guarding Words in Anger: How often have I seen wise men turned into fools by rage! How strange it is that we allow anger—this fleeting madness—to make us speak words that will outlive our fury. Consider: is not a word spoken in anger like a wound self-inflicted? For in wounding others with harsh words, we first wound our own progress. On Governing Emotions: History has shown us how great men who conquered empires fell to the legions of their own passions! Emotions are not barbarians to be repelled, but forces to be understood and directed. Like a general who knows both the strengths and weaknesses of his army, we must learn to wield our emotions without becoming their slaves. On Vigilance in Success: Do you mock the beggar who finds a coin and considers himself rich? Look into the mirror of existence—do you not act the same? I have seen many who, lifted by Fortune, forget their mortal nature. Success, that sweet wine, intoxicates faster than any fermented drink. Remember always: the same Fortune that raises you today may cast you down tomorrow. Keep humility as your most faithful counselor, for it is the only one that will remain with you both at the heights and in the depths. Thank you for reading, my friend! If this message has helped you in any way, consider leaving your “🥃” as a token of appreciation. A toast to our family!

"A persistent man, even if lacking in skill, is closer to achievement than the talented one who indulges in a romance with the couch." 🏆 The feathers in which the talented man nests are those of self-assurance—soft and comforting, woven from the validation of parents who once saw in him the promise of a prodigy. So accustomed to praise and attention, he convinces himself he can rest a little longer—not just ten minutes past the alarm, but one or two years beyond his competitors, whom he so easily dismisses. In his arrogant perception, when he finally decides to rise, he believes he will effortlessly outpace anyone, reaching the finish line with an almost supernatural competence that disregards the grit, effort, and preparation of others. Let them keep dreaming! Meanwhile, we, armed with nothing but the calling of perseverance, push forward, breaking our own limits, expanding the territory of our conquests and marking new boundaries with the sweat of our brow. While the talented are strangled by the ticking clock, the persistent outpace time itself—slipping away early, honing their craft, ensuring that fate has no choice but to yield to their will. If they themselves have turned this phrase into a cliché: "There is nothing more common than talented failures," then let us one day forge our own: "Perseverance was all we had, and it gave us everything we own." Thank you for reading, my friend! If this message resonated with you in any way, consider leaving your glass "🥃" as a token of appreciation. A toast to our family!

"Experience is a trophy forged from all the weapons that have wounded us." — Marcus Aurelius 🩸 Observe how one who has suffered greatly walks with the calm of a veteran; in his countenance, the serenity of a wolf intimately familiar with every trap that could have killed him. No man becomes wise without first being torn apart by fate, for it is in the nature of things that the deepest understanding is born from the most excruciating wounds. Thus, the progress of our species is made. Every defeat we suffer is an inscription in bronze—though written with tears, it later becomes a guide for untested paths. Each blow that once made us bleed now shines upon our mantle of maturity, turning past afflictions into emblems of sovereignty that command respect today. The weapons that once wounded our flesh no longer threaten us, for we have gathered them, piece by piece, into a living fortress—an obelisk of shards and blades, whose sharp edges return pain to any who dare strike against it. Thus, what we call experience and maturity is nothing more than a sacred reliquary of cauterized wounds, where every strike that failed to kill us now rests as a quiet trophy of our journey through the valley of shadows. Thank you for reading, my friend! If this message resonated with you in any way, consider leaving your glass “🥃” as a token of appreciation. A toast to our family!

"With evil, there are no negotiations—only confrontations." 🦊 In a small stream, a hungry fox was drinking water when a lamb arrived downstream and began to drink as well. The fox narrowed its cunning eyes and bared its teeth, saying: "How dare you steal the water where I drink?" The lamb humbly replied: "I am below you in the stream; I could not possibly dirty your water." The fox, even more enraged, continued: "Then why are you insulting me? Your father offended me six months ago!" The lamb responded: "There must be some mistake—I was born only three months ago. I did not exist then and bear no blame." The fox snapped back: "You are guilty of ruining my field by grazing on my land!" The lamb replied: "That is impossible, for I have not yet grown teeth." Out of arguments, the fox lunged at the lamb and devoured it. 📌 Moral: You cannot negotiate with evil. When the wicked are determined to harm, no words will be able to stop them. They will take everything from you, little by little, under the false promise of causing no further harm. And when there is nothing left to take, they will complete your destruction. Evil does not accept agreements; it only accepts domination. Malice does not respond to logic or reasoning; it can only be subdued by the language of force. Therefore, fight mercilessly against that which would destroy you without remorse. Thank you for reading this far, my dear friend! If this message has helped you in any way, consider leaving your "🥃" as a token of appreciation. A toast to our family!

"Life has been so much better since I distanced myself from everyone who made me doubt them. There was never any loss on my part. Peace is all that remains here." 🥃 I live by this saying: “It is not enough for Caesar’s wife to be honest; she must be above suspicion.” Julius Caesar was referring to his wife, but I do not limit this principle to romantic relationships alone. How many times have you doubted the character of a friend, and after the friendship ended—despite your efforts to preserve it—your suspicions were confirmed? The girlfriend who starts disappearing at suspicious times, the employee who suddenly begins acting strangely—no doubt arises without reason. We struggle to believe they are acting behind our backs because we don’t want the expectations we built to be shattered. We resist accepting that, after so much effort, this is the repayment we receive. But this mystery would be easy to solve if you were merely a spectator watching your own life from the outside. Affection clouds our judgment. Learn, then, to perceive things with a cold and objective mind. Because if the person beside you is not only disloyal but also manipulative, they will trap you in a cycle of torment that steals years from your life. Twisting the truth and reversing the consequences, they will accuse you of insecurities caused by their own actions—actions that provide no reassurance for the future of your relationship. And the outcome is predictable: *you* will be blamed for their wrongdoing. The truth? A person who respects you would never put themselves in situations that could cause you distress. Just as you would do for them, they would reciprocate—because peace in loyalty is shared, and what harms the other is not in harmony with you. “They must not even be suspected.” So, value those in your life who leave no room for doubt—those who avoid places and people that could taint the reputation of both, simply to prevent others from *"imagining things."* To sleep and wake up without the constant suspicion of being deceived is a peace beyond price. If you cannot find that peace with someone, embrace solitude—where peace is always certain. Thank you for reading this far, my dear friend! If this message has helped you in any way, consider leaving your "🥃" as a token of appreciation. A toast to our family!

"He was not like them… but he was one of them." 💀 You already know what bad company does to good morals. The group normalizes atrocity. They preach that the ridiculous is beautiful and that absurdity is the new rule, simply because the applause beats louder than your brave heart. In silence, listen. You must always heed the counsel roaring through your arteries, knowing that, though drowned out by the cacophony of public opinion, your conscience preserves the understanding of what is right. Conscience is the marrow of the soul. Do not let your vision be confined to your surroundings. The world is not just made up of six or seven people nodding at you in approval. If that is what you've been taught, seek to understand how far that teaching should carry you. Carry the virtues of your family as a banner, but never be the heir of its flaws—let the failures die with you before you do. Always seek the truth, even if it costs you everything. Even if it means standing alone against the crowd. Wrong does not become right, even if everyone is doing it. If they place a dagger in your hands, you must decide whether to condemn yourself or sever the ties that bind you to them. There is always more than one choice. But in the end, you alone bear responsibility for what you decide. + "A king may move a man, a father may claim a son, but remember that, even when those who move you are kings or men of power, your soul belongs only to you. When you stand before God, you cannot say, ‘But they told me to do this.’ Or that ‘Virtue was not convenient at the time.’ It will not be enough. Remember that." — King Baldwin IV, *Kingdom of Heaven Thank you for reading this far, my dear friend! If this message has helped you in any way, consider leaving your "🥃" as a token of appreciation. A toast to our family!

"The flatterer chooses the side of advantage. The honest person chooses the side of truth, even when it comes at a high cost." 🐍 Miserable is the one who, like a starving dog, crawls at the feet of the powerful, licking their boots in exchange for the crumbs that fall from their tables. Behold how he writhes, changing opinions faster than Proteus shifts his form, always eager to agree with those who can grant him favors, for his soul is up for sale at the lowest price in the marketplace of vanity! What greater stain can mark a man than to desert honesty, abandoning it like a coward forsaking his post, merely to bask in the false fire of popularity and the favors of the infamous? The just and the wise look with contempt upon those who, instead of standing tall in the integrity of character, choose to wallow in the mud of flattery, trading their dignity for fleeting advantages. And you, who still hold some nobility in your soul, remember this: it is better to eat dry bread at the table of honesty than to feast on delicacies in the house of falsehood, for the price of truth, no matter how high it seems, is always less than the cost of dishonor. Thank you for reading this far, my dear friend! If this message has helped you in any way, consider leaving your "🥃" as a token of appreciation. A toast to our family!

You wanted to be disciplined, so you are being tested with temptations. You wanted to be loved, so you are learning to love yourself. You wanted to be strong, so now you are facing setbacks. You wanted to develop patience, so you are being challenged by the delay of results. You wanted to have peace, so you are being tested with chaos. Even without realizing it, you are receiving everything you asked for. "No discipline seems pleasant at the time, but painful. Later on, however, it produces a harvest of righteousness and peace for those who have been trained by it." (Hebrews 12:11) This quote by Ovid is one of my mottos: “Endure and persevere, for this pain will one day be of great benefit to you.” Whenever you feel down, remember this. Thank you for reading this far, dear friend! If this message has helped you in any way, consider leaving your glass “🥃” as a token of gratitude. A toast to our family!

"The envious see everything but never praise, never acknowledge, never applaud; in truth, they spend their days dreaming of your downfall." 🔥 7 Quotes to Protect Yourself from Envy, taken from The 48 Laws of Power. 1. When success arrives, the people you must watch out for the most are those within your own circle: friends and acquaintances left behind. 2. Never be so foolish as to believe you're inspiring admiration by flaunting qualities that place you above others. 3. As you gain power, those beneath you will inevitably feel envious. They may not show it, but it's unavoidable. Don't naively trust the facade they present — read between the lines of their critiques, subtle sarcastic remarks, signs of betrayal, and overly enthusiastic compliments meant to set you up for a fall. 4. Oftentimes, it's your own actions that provoke envy — your own lack of awareness. By becoming conscious of the traits and displays that spark jealousy, you can disarm it before it sinks its teeth into you. 5. In some Arab cultures, a man avoids envy by doing as Cosimo de Medici did — showcasing his wealth only within the walls of his home. Apply this wisdom to your own character. 6. As Thoreau once said: "Envy is the tax every distinction must pay." 7. Never make the mistake of thinking you rise by humiliating others. Additionally, never hover too far above the crowd — you become an easy target. 8. BONUS: When envy reveals itself for what it truly is, the only solution is often to flee the presence of the envious, leaving them to drown in a hell of their own making. Thank you for reading this far, dear friend! If this message has helped you in any way, consider leaving your glass “🥃” as a token of gratitude. A toast to our family!

"When fishermen cannot go out to sea, they mend their nets." 🎣 Ancient sailors' commandment. Even when the sun fails to shine its timid light through the gray clouds, every day is an opportunity. None less important than the other, but all cumulative; today is the chance to seize tomorrow’s opportunity. Many leave everything for the last moment and are unprepared when it matters most. Opportunity has its own timing, one no one truly knows. Some think they do and procrastinate, but it shifts like the wind and catches them off guard. Be ready with your baggage. She, proud as she is, won’t stop for waving hands and often vanishes beyond the horizon, sometimes never to return. So, stay humble with your day and don’t overlook the small actions. The one who sharpens their sword only when the enemies are at the gate has already doomed their kingdom. Even the act of resting can be considered preparation. Sharpen your tools. Make use of today’s opportunity. When the opening comes, strike. When the sun appears, move swiftly and win the day. Thank you for reading this far, dear friend! If this message has helped you in any way, consider leaving your glass “🥃” as a token of gratitude. A toast to our family!

"Whoever walks with the wise becomes wise, but the companion of fools will suffer harm." ― Proverbs Walk with fools and become a fool. Don't walk with fools.

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"Don’t let a salary be a bribe to abandon your dreams. Your ambition should be so great that it cannot be satisfied with scraps." Suffering without a clear and concrete purpose is nothing more than unnecessary anguish. You must leave your comfort zone without stepping into a cycle of needless tribulations that won’t benefit you in any way. When you lose your honor and pride in your work, you risk behaving like someone who accepts anything in exchange for a paycheck. Don’t allow yourself to be humiliated or degraded simply because you’re selling your effort. Always keep the perspective of your ultimate goal and stay true to it. Ultimately, you must value your time deeply rather than letting it be dictated by the needs of others or by mere crumbs. Do you care as much about your days of life as you do about money? For most of our lives, we allow people, jobs, and daily obligations to impose a hierarchical control over our time and free will. And often, we don’t even stop to ask: - Cazzo! What am I gaining from this situation? In this light, all the hardships a common man chooses to endure revolve around the pursuit of money. I ask you: has this trade been fair and equitable in your life? Is your work truly profitable for you? Or is the salary you receive at the end of the month nothing more than a meager bribe to forsake your dreams? It’s futile to spend most of your day in a job di cazzo, devoid of prospects, to support your famiglia, only to come home stressed and mistreat those you love most. Davvero, it’s not necessary to love your work as long as it puts money and food on your table. However, the goal is to avoid imbalance. What good is a bountiful table if you don’t have the health to enjoy the feast? What virtue is there in financially supporting your family if you lose the love of your dearest ones? No great success can justify failure in your own home. Thank you for reading this far, my dear friend! If this message has helped you in any way, consider leaving your glass “🥃” as a token of appreciation. Here’s a toast to our family!

"Those who jumped ship can deal with the sharks themselves." 🩸 Don’t abandon the ship to save those who chose to leap. It’s far too easy to persuade the return of someone who miscalculated the consequences while danger looms. Yet, the opportunist is loyal only to their own interests. If they’ve proven their loyalty to be weaker than the first hint of trouble, don’t expect gratitude or a transformation of character after their ordeal. Given another chance, they’ll act worse. The coward, in their desperation, thinks only of saving themselves. Even if they could spare you both, they’d drown you, using your body as a ladder, seize your ship, and tarnish your name. Remember, no one would try to return to your life if the illusions that led them to leave had truly been as good as they imagined. Their efforts to come back only prove their decisions were flawed. What’s outside the ship is a mirage. You can’t save everyone. Your commitment is to protect those who chose to stay, to honor their loyalty, and to reward the trust that you would persevere—even amid doubt, rough seas, and the siren songs promising wonders and illusions. Thank you for reading this far, my dear friend! If this message has helped you in any way, consider leaving your glass “🥃” as a token of appreciation. Here’s a toast to our family!

"Every man has his secret sorrows which the world knows not; and often we call a man cold or unfeeling when he is only sad." 🔕 "You are so brave and quiet that I forget you are suffering." (Ernest Hemingway, in the book *“A Farewell to Arms”*). Thank you for reading this far, my dear friend! If this message has helped you in any way, consider leaving your glass “🥃” as a token of appreciation. Here’s a toast to our family!